Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
Maybe I am completely misunderstanding the point of the OP cited article about seniors, physical fitness, hygiene, etc. So, I guess I am on the wrong end of this, but I just want to stay strong, limber, and mobile enough to do the physically active things I enjoy as I age - and that will likely continue to diminish as I age. I could care less about weight if it does not impact my ability to be active and mobile. I was a Division I athlete a lifetime ago, that will never be what I am now that I am in my 60's. Now it's hiking with grand kids, swimming in a lake, motorcycling with my adult children, etc., and carrying some extra meat on me is A OK if I am still able do those things. The wife and I have already decided when I am too old to motorcycle we will get a convertable - not to prove I am still young, but because that will be the best I can do, and closest I can come to being able to "still ride."
My looks? Well, shockingly, I look old! It is going to get worse. I am ok with that too. I guess I could get plastic surgery and dye my hair to appeal to my vanity, but truthfully, I like this stage of life. I am very ok with being the fat grandpa that's old.
I am also always shocked at how focused people are on sex and how frequently people have it. Most people that post on the subject seem to have a porn star's libido. Even at my most active it was once and occasionally twice a week. Now that I am old it is a lot less than that, but intimacy is SO much more than a five to ten minute romp. Give me an intimate loving relationship any day over frequent recurring sex acts (no, I don't shave with Gillette razors :/) ).
I can't say "never" but if something happened to my spouse of nearly forty years, I can't see remarriage or even dating. I have friends and family and other social outlets, so the only reason I stay active is for me, and doing what I want to do. Whether I am attractive to others, get laid more often, etc. seems to me to be very high school, and beneath the dignity of someone who has lived a full and joyous life.
Just me two cents.
Last edited by Tuck's Dad; 01-26-2019 at 12:59 PM..
....
My assessments have found that this flies in the face of conventional narratives about being older and how we get to "relax" and "be less stressed" about our appearances and lives when in fact we have to keep up as much as we can to hold a certain value in the eyes of the opposite/same sex or society as large. Any oppositions?
If you do not have realistic goals, yeah you could wind yourself into the same knots about it all as young people.
But if you have not just grown older, but also grown up why does it have to stressful?
As you hit your 70's I think these are all things that become optional to a lesser or greater extent, or fall into the category of I want them as much as it's possible to get them, or my general health, or my partner's general health allow. If your partner is out of shape it's not something new, so you hope for the best going forward. Same with a diminishing sex life. Same with appearance. It may not be an everyday thing, it may be sprucing up for special occasions and a once in a while night where you both get lucky. The OP's comments seem more geared to people who are looking for a relationship than for people in a long term relationship.
This reminded me of Jeff Bezos new squeeze. Now she’s not a senior. Think she is 50 years old or so. But all the pics I’ve seen of her have her with low cut tops, fake boobs and puffed up lips. Maybe this is what he is talking about..
Also an acquaintance of mine said it was important to her ex husband that other men found her attractive enough to want to xxck her. She was kind of surprised that I told her that was creepy. 🤢 yuck.
If you intend on having romantic relationships in older years? This is something I've researched extensively and come back to the same findings across the board. Whether it's men or women, the majority of people want someone fit, attractive, relatively clean, and sexually viable to begin a relationship with or prefer with their current spouse. Not only that but keeping in shape and appearance as an older person, people are more drawn to you and are inclined to strike up conversation and befriend you including younger people.
My assessments have found that this flies in the face of conventional narratives about being older and how we get to "relax" and "be less stressed" about our appearances and lives when in fact we have to keep up as much as we can to hold a certain value in the eyes of the opposite/same sex or society as large. Any oppositions?
I don’t know why but this made me laugh out loud. Probably because I started thinking about inert gases. And when you put men and gas together...
In terms of sexuality... TMI no doubt, but I had a session a couple of months ago with a “sexual wellness” physician. Yes, such practitioners exist, though they’re not common. This one is booked up six months in advance, which might give you some idea. My insurance even paid for it <shock>. Diagnosis was atrophic vaginitis, which is believed to affect about 50% of postmenopausal women.
I won’t discuss the treatment here. Wikipedia has a good discussion for those who are interested.
Any ob/gyn could diagnose atrophic vaginitis. Most women eventually experience it if they don't use estrogen replacement after menopause but they can have it at any age.
Then come the prolapses.
I don't care what you do there are many indignities attached to aging and it's best we get prepared, be chill and have a sense of humor. We don't need this pressure and frankly I don't believe a lot of older people are so robust as they say they are, and if they are so lucky they are in for a big surprise someday.
Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. It is free and quick. Over $68,000 in prizes has already been given out to active posters on our forum. Additional giveaways are planned.
Detailed information about all U.S. cities, counties, and zip codes on our site: City-data.com.
Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
