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Originally Posted by xS☺Be
As a teacher, educator - if you had a student who did not turn in an assignment, how would you handle this?
How would you advise a child he forgot to hand in the assignment?
a. Announce to the class assignment is overdue.
b. Personally advise the child you have not received the assignment and mention if he didn't hand it in he would receive a zero.
c. He gets a zero. It's his responsibility to hand it in.
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Elementary School: First A then B and then C
Middle School: First A and then C (though if student approaches in timely fashion, he/she can still turn in)
High School: C (though if student approaches in timely fashion, he/she can still turn in as long as within rules as stated at beginning of class)
I am assuming he is a HS student, as most parents would not care K-8.
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My son is an A student except for the ZEROes which drag his grade down to 77.
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My child did EXACTLY this for three years, 8th through 10th.
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I don't think it is too much to ask a teacher to simply advise him his work is overdue.
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I think that at the high school level, the pace often makes "C" the only practical approach for teachers. Your son needs to step it up...somehow.
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Getting a zero as a grade on a progress report is long term damage on his future. That's a pretty nasty thing to do to an otherwise good child who is really trying but is simply forgetful. I thought teachers are suppose to be loving and caring - not ruthless executioners.
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First, they are paid dirt for the crap they must deal with. Their job at the HS level is to teach the subject and hopefully to transmit a clear signal as to expectations, behaviors, etc.
Second, if forgetful, there are ways to address: daily planners, parent access to student records, etc.
I do think a "0" without time to submit stuff late is harsh, esp. for Frosh-Soph. But students should expect to be docked. And if the issue is chronic, more drastic measures are called for, such as parent-teacher conferences.
When my child was stringing together 0's, we got a phone call from one teacher. No word from others. Work made up and 0s accepted on ones in which hard rules were in place. We accepted all. It was our child's responsibility. Next in line would be us. Only then the teacher.
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I fully expect the line I will hear is "that's what will happen to him in the real world if ...". But I think that's BS. If i forget to fill out my timesheet in the real world my boss reminds me - she doesn't just pay me zero. If a nurse forgets to give a patient a med, the other nurses remind her to do so. If I miss a payment to the electric company, they don't shut off my lights - they advise me I missed the payment and then we fix it.
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Again, I am assuming your child is in HS. On ^^, you don;t seem to understand that your child IS in the real world, the real world of modern education. What used to be be the status quo in colleges are now in high schools. Part of this are clear rules for submissions and clear statements as to when 0's are permanent. I would be shocked if those rules were not communicated to your child. If they were;'t and the 0s are arbitrary, then I would get on their cases.
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I'm contacting counselors there to get info. AFAIK, I have no way to know what assignments he has and when they are due so I can help him. Plus the damndest thing to me is all it would take is a simple sentence from the teacher "Johnny, I haven't received your homework." And I don't find out till I see the report card!
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Doesn't your school have a computer system with online access to grades in near real-time? We have such a system and our district operates on a shoe string budget. We can log in and see progress. We do not do it enough. Now, I will not. It is 100% on the child's shoulders.
During Freshman year, I spoke with one of my child's teacher about missed/late assignments. It turns out, the opening minutes of every class had reminders on the board as to assignments. But ... these were not personalized. It was not until the parent-teacher and a number of zeros and discounted marks were in the books that the fullest extent of what was and wash't going on was revealed.
When I look back at those days, I think we (as in the wife and I) had not fully prepared to be parents of a high school kid in the 21st century. We should have been on the ball more and anticipated better.
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My kid is a quiet kid - non disruptive, very polite. An ideal child and student. He does the work - he just forgets to hand it in! It's a stupid maddening shortcoming. If I was home schooling him, I would just say "Alex, where's your math assignment?"
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Again, if in HS, I would not expect that level of coddling. If elementary, sure. But a few zeros then should not be such a cause for alarm. If in middle school, it is a great opportunity to get you and your son on the same page before entering HS.
Again, the situation you describe is eerily similar to what we went through. We had very similar sentiments.
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Alex has 100% on many of his tests. He has mastered the subjects, but the world at large will only see a grade of 77% and rank him as a lackluster.
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At some point, he will need to awake from his fog.
You have to step back and ask, "why would an A student sandbag on getting the easy points and almost deliberately let his grades slip to a 77?"
I am dead serious here. You might want to see a counselor. We did. This may be a sign of something worse. It won;t necessarily make things easier, but you can at least begin to restrategize.
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I wonder if giving zeroes is exclusive to the local culture or is the same everywhere. Seems to me sending him to this school is doing him more damage than good.
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Gosh, again, your story is very similar to what we experienced. Bringing him home may work for your son or it may not. It did not work for us.
What cleared the fog was a combination of (a) age, (b) stepping back, (d) reducing expectations a few clicks, and (d) the conversation among peers about college.
The fog is still there but lifting a bit each day.
But for 3-4 years, nothing seemed to work. We tried everything under the sun.
Luckily, our child has thus far emerged with a high GPA and decent progress on the key classes.
In retrospect, would I have done anything different?
1) backed off earlier
2) ratchet down expectations
3) had the child take study skills classes and a few more nonacademic classes
4) been better at recognizing things in middle school
5) Sought counseling help early on
I hope you read through the comments carefully and a couple of times so you can understand the fuller gravity of my reply.
Hang in there,
S.