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So my best friend is getting married and I am in the wedding party. This of course means that I will be sitting at the head table with the rest of the wedding party.
I just asked my girlfriend to attend the wedding with me. She felt uncomfortable going and having to eat alone. She said that she would come after dinner instead. Does this happen often? I feel that she should come for the whole thing, or not at all.
She also said that she didnt want to attend the actual wedding because she didn't want to sit alone at the church. I thought this was a little odd but it was less of a big deal to me since I know I wont really be spending time with her at the church anyway.
What is protocol for the S.O who have dates in the wedding party?
So my best friend is getting married and I am in the wedding party. This of course means that I will be sitting at the head table with the rest of the wedding party.
I just asked my girlfriend to attend the wedding with me. She felt uncomfortable going and having to eat alone. She said that she would come after dinner instead. Does this happen often? I feel that she should come for the whole thing, or not at all.
She also said that she didnt want to attend the actual wedding because she didn't want to sit alone at the church. I thought this was a little odd but it was less of a big deal to me since I know I wont really be spending time with her at the church anyway.
What is protocol for the S.O who have dates in the wedding party?
I have never been to a wedding where only the wedding party sits at the head table. Everyone in the wedding is usually allowed to have their significant other/date at the table with them.
Are you SURE the bride and groom would make her sit at another table?? That seems very odd to me...
In addition, your girl sounds a little immature to me.
So my best friend is getting married and I am in the wedding party. This of course means that I will be sitting at the head table with the rest of the wedding party.
I just asked my girlfriend to attend the wedding with me. She felt uncomfortable going and having to eat alone. She said that she would come after dinner instead. Does this happen often? I feel that she should come for the whole thing, or not at all.
She also said that she didnt want to attend the actual wedding because she didn't want to sit alone at the church. I thought this was a little odd but it was less of a big deal to me since I know I wont really be spending time with her at the church anyway.
What is protocol for the S.O who have dates in the wedding party?
The girlfriend needs to grow up. Tell her that the room will be filled with people who don't know one another. Mature adults learn to make conversation with people they don't know at the table on such occasions. Next question?
I have never been to a wedding where only the wedding party sits at the head table. Everyone in the wedding is usually allowed to have their significant other/date at the table with them.
Are you SURE the bride and groom would make her sit at another table?? That seems very odd to me...
I've been to weddings where the wedding party all sits together (even if some members of the wedding party have spouses not in the wedding) and everyone else has assigned seats.
If your GF doesn't know anyone at the wedding (except you), then I can see where she'd be uncomfortable sitting alone at wedding and dinner while you fulfill your grooms-men duties. It makes sense to me for her to come afterwards when the two of you can dance, drink, talk together.
If this is your best friend's wedding, will your girlfriend really not know anyone else who'll be at the wedding? Surely she's met your friends before. This is a situation where she can suck it up for an hour or two for your sake. You could make a weekend of it and do something for her on Sunday.
It's not like she will be at a table by herself...why can't she just eat her meal and chat with whomever else is seated at her table? Sounds weird to me.
Generally in a formal wedding the wives/girlfriends/husbands/boyfriends of the bridal party have their own table where they can mingle. If she's uncomfortable with this because she doesn't know anyone then I can't see it being an issue to come after the dinner.
I have only been to one wedding where I was a guest.
If she doesn't want to sit alone, she doesn't have to. If she wants to show up later, what's the big deal?
Some people might find that rude but who cares? I think you might be reading too much into it.
Yea, I view showing up after dinner as kind of rude. But who knows... I may be the minority.
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Originally Posted by lovesMountains
I have never been to a wedding where only the wedding party sits at the head table. Everyone in the wedding is usually allowed to have their significant other/date at the table with them.
Are you SURE the bride and groom would make her sit at another table?? That seems very odd to me...
In addition, your girl sounds a little immature to me.
Im not positive, but every wedding I have been to thats how its been.
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Originally Posted by cpg35223
The girlfriend needs to grow up. Tell her that the room will be filled with people who don't know one another. Mature adults learn to make conversation with people they don't know at the table on such occasions. Next question?
Thats just easier said than done. I understand she may be uncomfortable and I even told her she would probably be paired up with other Significant Others from the wedding party who are in similar situations. I just want to respect her wishes.
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Originally Posted by fleetiebelle
If this is your best friend's wedding, will your girlfriend really not know anyone else who'll be at the wedding? Surely she's met your friends before. This is a situation where she can suck it up for an hour or two for your sake.
Shes a new girlfriend who hasn't met this friend yet. We have been dating for a month and my friend has been very busy with the wedding and he also works weekends now which I have off. Its just sort of bad timing I guess. I plan for her to meet the bride and groom prior to the wedding though. I would suck it up for her if she had the same situation, but she is a little less outgoing than I am.
I've been to weddings where the wedding party all sits together (even if some members of the wedding party have spouses not in the wedding) and everyone else has assigned seats.
Wow, that seems so rude.
Are these weddings in the northeast by any chance?
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