Have you ever been to a wedding/funeral for someone you didn't know? (invite, husband)

[BrettAZ]

Have you ever been to a wedding/funeral for someone you didn't know?

[Sassybluesy]

Regarding weddings...I don't think so. I can't really remember any, where I didn't know the bride or the groom, or both.


Funerals however...different story. I've been to a few, where I didn't know the deceased.

[TashaPosh]

Originally Posted by Sassybluesy

Regarding weddings...I don't think so. I can't really remember any, where I didn't know the bride or the groom, or both.


Funerals however...different story. I've been to a few, where I didn't know the deceased.

I’m the total opposite. I’ve never been to a funeral…but I’ve been to a lot of weddings. A couple of times I went as a man’s date…so I didn’t know the bride, groom, or anybody. AND my husband & I have another wedding coming up for one of his work friends. I don’t know them…BUT we did meet once at an event before covid.

[Formerly Known As Twenty]

Originally Posted by BrettAZ

Have you ever been to a wedding/funeral for someone you didn't know?

Affirmative to both.

Most of my friends are male. When I was younger and single, I was the all-purpose platonic "plus one" for weddings. Dress up, eat, drink, and dance? Sign me up! It was easier to take me along than either a.) go solo or b.) scrounge up a date who might make more of being taken to a wedding than she should. Many good times were had that way.

When I've been partnered, there were also plenty of times when I attended a wedding with a spouse or boyfriend and knew absolutely no one there other than my spouse/boyfriend.

So far as funerals go, I've been going to the calling hours of strangers (or near strangers) since I was a child. As I've gotten older, going to the calling hours of various family members of friends, coworker, and classmates has become even more of a thing than it was when I was younger as parents and other close family members begin to die. There are plenty of times where I'd never met the deceased, but have gone in support of the person/people who I know through friendship, work, or school.

To clarify this a bit: where I'm from and now live, funerals, i.e., the actual graveside service, are generally a more intimate affair than the calling hours/memorial service/funeral supper/wake. Usually only family and very close friends attend *that* part.

[gentlearts]

Ive never been to a wedding where I didn’t know the couple.
I’ve gone to the calling hours for people I don’t know, because I knew a family member.

[DefiantNJ]

Originally Posted by Formerly Known As Twenty

When I've been partnered, there were also plenty of times when I attended a wedding with a spouse or boyfriend and knew absolutely no one there other than my spouse/boyfriend.

I think most people who had dated in the their 20s or early 30s had this experience. I was always pretty shy and did not date too much but even I have been to two weddings with my GFs as their date. On one wedding I literally didn't know anyone except for my date and another wedding was of a friend of a friend.

I had a good time on two of these weddings. To me they were kind of like extensive dates with eating, drinking, dancing and occasionally making out during slow dances.

Now that I think of these experiences, I am not sure how happy the hosts were for me to be there as they actually didn't invite me directly. Perhaps they were disappointed that my date paid a lot of attention to me but perhaps not enough on the Bride and Groom... They obviously didn't say anything and graciously thanked me for coming...

I have never had to go to a funeral of someone I didn't know...