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My company is hiring, and over the past few weeks I have been pulled into interviews. One thing has me really bothered: none of the candidates send thank you notes. Email or otherwise.
Do people not do this anymore? I always send a note after an in person interview. Typically on the same day, if not on the way home. Even if I didn't like tge job. It is just good courtesey in my book. One candidate didn't follow up with anyone even thogh she was interested.
Companies rarely have enough consideration to even send rejection letters so the applicant is stuck left wondering if they got to the job or not or where in the process they could be in getting hired.
Why should applicants extend any consideration either? I love how when applying for companies (For probably underpaid lousy positions) you have to act like a desperate toadie wiling to do anything to get hired.
Nothing is worse than an employer's market who can string along millions of candidates and playing Jedi Mind trick corporate games
I've given up thank you notes long ago, but I'll send an email and a LinkedIn invitation if I can get an email address for the interviewer.
My early-20s son is job-hunting. He doesn't even like to send thank-you emails after interviews. He'd just give me the and look at me like I was from Mars if I dared to suggest he send a thank you note or a LinkedIn invitation.
I've given up thank you notes long ago, but I'll send an email and a LinkedIn invitation if I can get an email address for the interviewer.
My early-20s son is job-hunting. He doesn't even like to send thank-you emails after interviews. He'd just give me the and look at me like I was from Mars if I dared to suggest he send a thank you note or a LinkedIn invitation.
I gave up on handwritten notes a while ago, but emails are a no-brainer. I bring my card as a test if I am the interviewer. It feels like 5 minutes well worth it to me. Particularly in a competitive situation. And you can share that key anecdote/proof point you forgot in the interview.
I always do but I think it is rude that no interviewer responds to a thank you email with something like. "We appreciate you coming in today and it was nice speaking with you as well".
How hard would that be? Coming from people who want so much courtesy extended to them, it would be very nice and professional of them to extend some courtesy themselves.
I sent a response following an interview once. Not only did I not get the job, but I was never informed that I was not selected for the job. So, I have found writing thank you notes and the like to be a waste of time. Just my limited, and admittedly limited experience.
I totally agree with andywire and others, personally I find thank you notes and emails an absolute waste of time.
As an interviewer, receiving a thank you note in any form never influenced my hiring recommendations.
I only sent a thank you email after interviewing for my current job because the recruiter told me to do so. Previous jobs I have never sent any thank you notes/emails.
If you search online, some advice will say that it's important to send one. I disagree.
My company is hiring, and over the past few weeks I have been pulled into interviews. One thing has me really bothered: none of the candidates send thank you notes. Email or otherwise.
Do people not do this anymore? I always send a note after an in person interview. Typically on the same day, if not on the way home. Even if I didn't like tge job. It is just good courtesey in my book. One candidate didn't follow up with anyone even thogh she was interested.
Maybe I'm just "old."
So do you send thank you notes? Why or why not?
Most people under thirty don't think a formal reply is necessary when their grandmother mails them a hundred dollars with a birthday greeting. Why would they thank someone for an interview for a job they might not get? I'm sure I'll get annoyed replies from the few outliers who were taught some manners and want to use their example as the norm, but in fact the vast majority of our younger citizens not only have no interest in etiquette, they often actively mock it.
They see etiquette as stuffy people trying to "control" them, not as a set of principles designed to guide human behavior so that society functions smoothly and confusion and hurt feelings are avoided.
Early in my corporate career, my employer gave those of us who attended a particular conference a copy of a book called The Complete Guide to Executive Manners by Letitia Baldrige, who owned a PR firm and was once the social secretary at the White House. I still have that book and consulted it constantly during my career. Much of what it teaches seems like common sense (thanking someone for taking time out of their busy day to consider a person for employment, for one example). But this is the kind of common sense that is lacking in current times. Just the other day someone contributed a letter to the C-D thread on relationships asking how to "disinvite" people from her wedding after the bills for the big show she wanted started to get too high. http://www.amazon.com/Letitia-Baldri.../dp/0892563621
Last edited by Jukesgrrl; 04-11-2015 at 01:59 PM..
Reason: grammar, something else that's out of style
I'm a millennial with good manners (always tips well, hold doors, say please and thank you, say sir and ma'am, etc).
But employers, in general, treat employees as disposable commodities. There is very little to no loyalty. Also, like many have said, if you don't get the job, they simply don't call you (but then they will call you months later out of the blue when it's convenient for them). Where's the etiquette there?
The fact is that Baby Boomers don't understand that you grew up in a privileged society that no longer exists (partially because you, as a group, destroyed it).
Many of us younger people have manners. We just choose not to use them because it will not get us anywhere.
For starters,take some economic classes to learn about the economy and how it works so you wouldn't look silly making statements such as :
"The fact is that Baby Boomers don't understand that you grew up in a privileged society that no longer exists (partially because you, as a group, destroyed it)."
Additionally, when you have class and manners it is just a part of you and a natural way of behaving for you, so you don't choose not to have class or manners because there is nothing in for you. Either you are that person or you are not.
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and look at me like I was from Mars if I dared to suggest he send a thank you note or a LinkedIn invitation.
