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My son is in his early 40's, working (was recently promoted there) and looking for a better job. Six years ago he went through a nasty divorce (ex cheated), lost his job, filed for bankruptcy and is having his house foreclosed (house is way underwater, in poor shape and will never be worth what is owed on it). As bad as this sounds he is very bright, college educated, a good worker and now engaged and living with a lovely woman. Is there anything he can say/do to offset the bad things of the past few years which are hampering his chances for a better job? Or is he doomed forever to not get interviews or hired due to past errors?
Last edited by alle; 11-15-2015 at 02:54 PM..
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My son is in his early 40's, working (was recently promoted there) and looking for a better job. Six years ago he went through a nasty divorce, lost his job, filed for bankruptcy and is having his house foreclosed (house is way underwater, in poor shape and will never be worth what is owed on it). As bad as this sounds he is very bright, college educated, a good worker and now engaged and living with a lovely woman. Is there anything he can say/do to offset the bad things of the past few years which are hampering his chances for a better job? Or is he doomed forever to not get interviews or hired due to past errors?
This is not an automatic sentence dooming him for failure at this. Many people have gone through this, Especially in regards to bankruptcy in recent years due to the recession. Certain jobs are more stringent then others (ones handling finances for example) but if a background check is performed being upfront is best. He is certainly not alone in this situation, And it sounds lime he has many good qualities that can overcome this. He should project this in interviews and use it to his advantage. It's great he is getting a chance to start over. Life can beat the best of us down in various ways. Best to be stubborn in this regard and get up and charge forward. I hope he finds everything he is seeking!
There is nothing hampering his future here except the possibility that he has let himself sink into low self-esteem, feeling hopeless, losing self-confidence.
All that you mention has happened to a lot of us. He is not alone, if that helps him to accept all this.
The past is the past, so move on now and hope for a better tomorrow.
If he doesn't give any hint of his past personal problems during an interview, the only thing that could potentially hold him back is a credit check. However, not all employers do this.
Original poster here. The divorce was nasty with the cheating ex accusing him of child abuse and requesting restraining orders. Months later and thousands of dollars spent this was proven to be totally untrue and thrown out. Unfortunately in Wisconsin the circuit court records of petitions are public and online. Even though it states that unfounded petitions are not to be considered, the fact that they were filed is still out there in a public online record. So any prospective employer will see that if they check court records. How does one fight that? Folks always assume the worst. Son has joint custody of his kids and has had for years but anyone checking records is going to wonder. It's just so sad and unfair that this can be used against him forever and he's done nothing wrong.
Probably the most damning thing would be the bankruptcy, if he has no arrest record or criminal record his personal issues should have no bearing on employment and it would be discriminatory to reject him on those grounds.
Is he currently licensed in the insurance industry?
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