Coworker keeps "volunteering" me to do things. (employees, job, company)
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So I work in an office with a woman that is a manager in her department. But she is not my boss. She is a control freak and tries to be the "queen" of the office. You know the type: upper management loves her but in reality she is a passive agggressive control freak. Well she is friendly with my manager outside of work.
Today for the 3rd or 4th time she "volunteered" me to help with something that can't and don't want to do. The company is having a lunch next week for the employees. She told my boss she would love to help set up and pick up the food but she would be out the day before. Then I overhear her saying "Maybe Terri can help you". Um no. I work different hours then my manager and helping do this would mean I have to come in early and I can't. Nor do I want to go grocery shopping. How do I nip this in the bud? This isn't the first time and I'm tired of it. I want to say something but I feel it will cause waves.
"I would love to help with this but I have other commitments which make it impossible to meet your needs. Please check with me in the future as I do not want to disappoint the team." Then have a heart-to-heart with YOUR manager, s/he needs to claim your time.
What Froglipz said but you need to be a lot more diplomatic and say I would like to help but am currently working on X, Y, and Z and cannot devote the time.
So I work in an office with a woman that is a manager in her department. But she is not my boss. She is a control freak and tries to be the "queen" of the office. You know the type: upper management loves her but in reality she is a passive agggressive control freak. Well she is friendly with my manager outside of work.
Today for the 3rd or 4th time she "volunteered" me to help with something that can't and don't want to do. The company is having a lunch next week for the employees. She told my boss she would love to help set up and pick up the food but she would be out the day before.Then I overhear her saying "Maybe Terri can help you". Um no. I work different hours then my manager and helping do this would mean I have to come in early and I can't. Nor do I want to go grocery shopping. How do I nip this in the bud? This isn't the first time and I'm tired of it. I want to say something but I feel it will cause waves.
So, has your manager assigned this to you? Or, you just overheard it?
I re-read your OP. So, essentially this person is astute at passing the buck to someone else....including your own manager, by saying the bolded above. Quite manipulative.
It actually sounds like you'd be helping your manager, who has obviously gotten stuck doing this by the "queen bee."
You are in a situation that is lose, lose....You overheard...So, unless your boss approaches you, you are stuck.
If your boss does try to assign this to you....Sit down with your manager and tell her that you over heard and you'll do whatever she deems necessary within your job description....but you are feeling some conflict at being directed by this other Dept. manager.
You may be surprised by the fact that this woman pulls this on your manager often too. Maybe together you can get this to stop.
What are the other examples? I would like to understand what your manager does following this other woman's suggestions. If she always follows this lady's suggestions, she likely is a poor manager, and it won't likely change.
I have a co-worker like that. She just came out of retirement. She thinks she has the right to order everyone around because she "has been working at this store since I was 14!". She even yells orders to other departments over the radio!
No my manager said nothing to me. Yes it's usually within earshot. Last week she volunteered me to clean out the fridge.
Well, unless your manager makes you do it.....You haven't been asked, or assigned....That's how I'd work it.
If she does, I'd ask about overtime, since it is a different shift.
Or, tell her you'll work that into your hours...Don't do it off the clock!
This sounds like B.S. no wonder you're fed up. What other things has she done??
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