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When someone prays for you in a public location... is that good or bad??

Posted 01-31-2011 at 11:44 AM by Time and Space
Updated 07-31-2011 at 11:07 PM by Time and Space


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The other night...some guy, an employee of the store I was at, asked me to follow them outside...once outside, they did the whole public prayer thing...

You know...the 'Repeat after me' script....

The meaningless mindless repeating of someone elses sentiment, that's not nessicarily your own...

(I think such rituals do more to make them feel good about themselves than the one the prayer is intended to help)

I told this guy I had some issues in my life, that had nothing or little to do with my character...
So rather than address those issues, it turned into a 'have you given your life to christ' type of interaction...or 'have you said the sinners prayer' type of insulting question...

I'll admit...I had a few 'beers' in me...




And as such, I allowed this guy to 'use me' or 'prostisolize' me, for his own purposes...

To show others or himself how 'mighty' he was by using me as a willing 'prop'...

After words I felt used...

I saw or felt no different in what they did to me, than if I had been sexually tooken advantage of....

Again...this issue wasn't 'me'...but he, they, made it about me, and my soul and the state of my salvation...

The issue was about 'life'...and the circumstances laid out before me...

And me recogonizing whether or not I'm a 'sinner' or not does, has done, absolutly nothing to help resolve these issues...

I only feel exploited and tooken advantage of now...

1. I don't believe in the whole 'repeat after me' type of template prayers...

To me, unless it's of your own sentiment and words and heart felt passion...it's totally meaningless...and just being done for show...

2. I already know who God is, and what Christ did on the cross...but God and Jesus aren't the ones I have to deal with here on earth...their not the ones putting road blocks in my path.

3. I resent having this guy grab my hands and arms, like some puppet, so that he could demonstrate to others that he had reeled in yet another 'dummy' or 'puppet'...

If he had really cared, he would have left me his phone number and or given me the name to the church he goes to.

He took the lazy easy way out...by simply praying, but not really caring...

(although he did say he 'loved me'...)

4. And it could be possible I'm being to hard on them do to my own 'ego'...I don't know...and I'm not sure how I will react when I see them again...

I mean do they expect my life to be all perfect now just because of that one prayer they made me repeat??

5. It annoys me greatly when others who attend church, think their the only ones who 'know god' or who god is capable of talking to or touching...

And they always assume that your life has been empty and devoid of god until the moment you come across them.

I find that insulting and arrogant...

Many of us non church going believers, have had a relationship with the savior since our teen years...or younger...

But do to the cruelty of man, or other obsticles placed in our way...our relationship with the 'church' or church attendance, is now limited...

People who attend church can be very cruel...and always think they can tell who's 'saved' or 'unsaved' based on ones outter appearence or music they listen to or other such superfiscal stuff...

And such as the nature of man, they pass condemning judgment, instead of listening and loving, there-by driving many away from the 'church' building...but not away from 'God'...

Anyhow...guess I'm done...
Not sure why I had to get this out...never am...

I'm sure that guy praying for me in public, meant well..(I guess)...but I don't feel 'well' because of his prayer...rather I feel 'used' and slightly denigrated...

I feel they never addressed what i was actually going through...rather they used me, to fulfill their own purpose...

My 'sins' have nothing to do with someone else being 'sick' or 'ill'....

Instead of him thanking me for helping them...he made it about me and my 'sins' and confessing to God and saying the sinners prayer....huh??!!

To be continued...
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  1. Old Comment
    Shame he didnt give you the number of the Church he attends, so you could 'talk' to the Pastor, and then you may not have felt so 'used'...

    Yes, some are 'overzealous', but, even PAUL was that way, when he went out to preach and he says it in the text of the bible... So, I cant fault the man for that... Just wish he would have given you the number to the Church....

    I wish you well....

    Jesse
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    Posted 02-01-2011 at 06:51 AM by woodworkingmenace woodworkingmenace is offline
  2. Old Comment
    i'm so sorry.this man did not know what he was doing or rather he didn't know what to do.you don't help someone by making a 'show' of the situation. he should have quietly and in private talked to you. god is love .it is never ever the sinner he is against but rather the sin. for we all have fell short in one way or the other. the bible says if you fail in one part you have fallen in all meaning sin is sin. it does not matter if it is a big sin or a little sin it is all the same to god. that is why he loves us inspite of ourselves. he looks at our hearts.that is what he judges us by.all he requires from us is our best effort. now to address your situation, if you need an ear,i am here. i will try to address whatever is giving you 'fits' in life. who knows,maybe one day you can help me.anyhow, you have a sounding board in this community blog.we are all here to help if we can. i really wish that guy had given you his or his preachers number so you could have called later on.he might have meant well but obviously had no ideal how to help.
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    Posted 02-01-2011 at 12:06 PM by diaperpins diaperpins is offline
  3. Old Comment
    thanks diaperpins and Jesse...

    He just kinda...well...kinda grabbed me...and took advantage of my 'state'....

    I'm sure he meant well too...

    And I hope I wasn't to hard on them...
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    Posted 02-01-2011 at 06:00 PM by Time and Space Time and Space is offline
  4. Old Comment
    It happened again....

    Different store this time...
    But they didn't pray this time...instead we got into a long discusion about nutrition...

    (This is a guard, whom I talk to often)

    But last night...as I was in the store, they really went into the nutritional thing...they wouldn't let me leave...

    You know how when people get right in front of you and almost get within 12 inches of your face...like they totally violate your personal space gap...

    This older male just kept blabbing away...

    Finally I left...went into the store, and as I was leaving the store, the conversation started again...

    And to wrap this up...it ended with 'Have you accepted the lord into your heart'...

    At least he cared enough to ask...I guess...
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    Posted 02-13-2011 at 11:24 AM by Time and Space Time and Space is offline
  5. Old Comment
    if this keeps happening maybe its 4 a reason?
    I mean in your beginning blog yeah you were a spectacle
    now it seems like your trying to find God or hes trying to find
    you. I'm not one of those people that run around preaching and praying to everyone, but I have been known to bring my teen sons friends to church now and then when I see and hear them say my mom cant take me to church she has to work or ive never been 4 one reason or another . I think you should find a friend that goes to church and see if you can go with them. Just to check it out. If its not what you want you dont have to go back, but it maybe what your hearts looking for and your brain dont know it. just a thought. Either way if your in public and you feel like someones doing the whole big prayer thing that makes you feel used just tell them you are more comfortable in a private setting doing prayer. hope i could help at all.
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    Posted 02-25-2011 at 10:35 AM by mommaknowsbest mommaknowsbest is offline
  6. Old Comment
    Well mommaknowsbest...

    Odd thing is is it happened yet again...like today, 30 minutes ago...

    Here's what happened, on my way to such and such, I ran out of gas...

    I ran out of gas...



    I was already kinda down about stuff, and practically broke, so of course I wasn't in the most sociable of moods when I noticed some bible carrying people happen to be canvassing the block I was on...

    I kept saying to myself..

    Please don't let them come over here and or notice me

    Heck, I even turned my head and tried to look disinterested...but to know avail...dude came around to driver side door with pamplets...

    I opened door and just told him...

    I'm not interested...God is not a mechanic so he can't help me right now

    But the old man persisted...and me being the polite mannerable soul that I am I told him I'd listen...just to be polite...

    So I listened and listened and listened...than two females came over...and they begin...so I listened somemore...and listened and listened...

    (but none of what they were telling me was going to put gas in my tank and get me going)

    The one thing I notice about God or Jesus, is when Jesus was on the planet, before he started in on his message, he always took care of peoples immediate physical needs first...

    If they were hungry, he fed them, if they were sick, he healed them...cause even Jesus knew, unless he took care of the basics, every thing else he said would sound like noise..

    As I sat there, never did any of them ask what they could do to help get my van off the shoulder...never did they ask that...so again...it's as If I was doing them a service by allowing them to feel they were doing Gods will...

    Do you see what I'm saying??

    Even though I'm literally starving, hungry, near broke, in the end, It's like I was helping them...

    But I will say this, the old man did manage to pry my phone number from me...

    At that moment, I was so physically and mentally weak I just didn't care...

    So by me giving him my number that was my way of saying 'Ok fella, lets see what you got'

    For I always tell people it's not really Gods love I'm interested in down here on earth, rather it's their love, that's what I'm affected by...

    Or people who allow Gods love to flow through them, I guess...
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    Posted 03-05-2011 at 10:06 AM by Time and Space Time and Space is offline
  7. Old Comment
    All I want people to know is just because you run into someone while thier going through a crisis, doesn't mean that crisis was brought upon because they 'Don't know the lord'...

    That's such an old tired formula...

    Now knowing the lord, or having faith in his principles, or even believing he 'loves you', might allow some to get through crisis, but alone won't solve it.

    When those people approached me yesterday...while frustrated about running out of gas, or at the time I thought it could of been something worse, of course I would of had a look of frustration on my face...

    So by them saying 'You look frustrated and troubled'

    Well duh...of course...that's not a revelation from God, that's just reading someones mood, and tone at the moment...

    Telling me what I already know, doesn't do much for me, or others...fixing what is wrong, however, does wonders for the soul and spirit..

    Them offering to put gas in my vehicle, then telling me about their church and God, would of done wonders for me at that time...(in that order)...

    But them approaching me in a time of distress, taking advantage of that, to tell me about 'how wonderful God is, and their church, really didn't do much for me.

    Fill my belly with food, my account with money, and soround me with friends and support, and I took can walk around carrying a bible and acting 'giddy'...

    But I look at it like this, my stomache is empty, everything is out of wack, I have no support system, tomorrow is very uncertain...and I still havn't turned my back on the principles of God...

    Batteries going dead, have to continue this later...
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    Posted 03-06-2011 at 09:14 AM by Time and Space Time and Space is offline
  8. Old Comment
    Update...

    The people of that church...none of them have contacted me, and I did call that number...and never got a return call...

    So as I suspected...it's all pap...fluff...getting yourself high on your own emotions...just as I suspected...

    Oh well...they had their fun on that day..

    But I'm letting you all know, that nothing they did on that day, has helped me, or has made my life any easier in the slightest bit...

    This is the reality of it...

    This is the part they don't see...

    They do their public prayer thing, than leave you alone...
    It helps them, more than it helps you...

    Just for the record...
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    Posted 03-11-2011 at 06:29 PM by Time and Space Time and Space is offline
  9. Old Comment
    Just can't seem to get away from this public prayer thing...but the other day it took place inside a place I was staying out...with males...

    It just feels odd holding someones hand, or having them hold your hand, out of 'business'...

    all I kept thinking to myself, while they were praying is
    'Let go of my hand'...it just felt odd...

    Having another male hold my hand in prayer, feels more uncomfortable to me, than if they were simply 'hitting' on me...not sure why...

    If their holding my hand out of 'affection'...that's an emotion I'm firmiluar with...but when their doing it out of a strict utility prayer session...it makes me feel odd, uneasy...awkward...just not sure why...

    These guys were deacons...

    I'd rather do the prayer holding shoulders or locking arms...just not the hand thing...
    To me, holding hands is almost like kissing or something...
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    Posted 06-12-2011 at 10:03 PM by Time and Space Time and Space is offline
 

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