When someone cheats on you do you get even or move on?
Posted 12-31-2012 at 01:05 AM by HIRUTE
I BELIEVE MOVING ON IS THE PROPER RESPONSE. IT HURTS BUT YOU KNOW WHAT IF THER THAT EASILY TAKEN BY SOMEONE ELSE THEY WEREN'T FOR YOU ANYWAY
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In my opinion, if you cheat, then your as guilty as your mate, and you cant say a thing about it or whine.
Ive known people who cheat...
Some people are just 'wired' for it and wont settle down, or, if they do settle down, they will still be 'on the hunt' for other territories.
Its up to you to find out if your mate is this type.
Others, if you had been married for a long time, get tired of the 'same ol same ol'...and look for something more 'exciting'.
So, it depends on how long you two have been together and if you want your mate to stay or not.
I can understand if you have only been together for a wee bit, if you go, as you feel violated and hurt to no end.
But, most people, if they had been together for a long period of time, wouldnt trade thier mate in for anyone else and would fight to keep the one you love...
if so, then its time for a change. The straying partner only looks for somethnig different, so its time for 'you' to be different to attract your mate again! If its problems in the sack, then get books on how to do different things and practice with your mate.
If its just a 'rut'. then change scenery, go on a cruise, take more vacations, or do something different to make life more exciting.
Bored? hobbies... There are always a miriad of things to do, that can involve you and your mate, or even just you or your mate.
Life is what you make of it...
Its not easy to travel down a road and never look to the side to see the beauty in things, cause, if you dont, that road is going to be very boring, traveling down it by yourself.
i wish you well...
JessePosted 12-31-2012 at 04:03 AM by woodworkingmenace
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It really hurts when someone cheats on youPosted 12-31-2012 at 07:50 AM by Jonah85
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I am no expert in this department as I have only been cheated on a few times and have only cheated myself on a partner x1, a mate x1. The thing of it is, is that the cheat I got from my ex-husband whilst he was in the Navy and I was pregnant after only being married for a few months, although was not revealed until a few weeks before I delivered our baby, just after he received his first leave, and belive me he was gettin' his and then some on the homefront, But man, it was the most devistatingly, hard to swallow, discovery that I, although huffing and puffing in my hormonal state as sweet as any Dane could or would dare be to the man she had felt so strongly for, could not ACCEPT the fact that he had cheated. It was not revealed until later after the hurricane of a mess that followed that I had internalized his problem and being VERY young and encouragably naive about certain things. Iturned around and did the same thing but this was on a whole nother level. I did it for spite, revenge and explicately because the loving friends, who I will semi-lovingly refer to as the "trashcan tippin, 4AMslörulators from the Southern slums of hell (Yes there are plenty of slumlys from N E S W, NW, SW, esp. a NE corner of usually beautiful PAC-NW it seems lately),Posted 12-31-2012 at 10:31 AM by ridinhighrN13
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I am no expert in this department as I have only been cheated on a few times and have only cheated myself on a partner x1, a mate x1. The thing of it is, is that the cheat I got from my ex-husband whilst he was in the Navy and I was pregnant after only being married for a few months, although was not revealed until a few weeks before I delivered our baby, just after he received his first leave, and belive me he was gettin' his and then some on the homefront, But man, it was the most devistatingly, hard to swallow, discovery that I, although huffing and puffing in my hormonal state as sweet as any Dane could or would dare be to the man she had felt so strongly for, could not ACCEPT the fact that he had cheated. It was not revealed until later after the hurricane of a mess that followed that I had internalized his problem and being VERY young and encouragably naive about certain things. Iturned around and did the same thing but this was on a whole nother level. I did it for spite, revenge and explicately because the loving friends, who I will semi-lovingly refer to as the "trashcan tippin, 4AMslörulators from the Southern slums of hell (Yes there are plenty of slumlys from N E S W, NW, SW, esp. a NE corner of usually beautiful PAC-NW it seems lately). Life IS what You Make It. And I've managed to make the M****F**** sun shine on the darkest days. "I've Got The Power!"
Posted 12-31-2012 at 10:36 AM by ridinhighrN13
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I want to help I really do, but my opinion is countless to the all knowing, whether it be "God" or "CyberBuddha" talking, it must connect to the heart, directly relating to the present and (actual emotion) being felt inside "your body". It is where you become one with who you are because there is nothing that can change, manipulate or take this away, only you can decide and by all blessings in creation, if it is true, than you already known the answer.
I wish that wisdom was placed in front of me when I was in my early twenties because, regardless of the outcome (no regrets), revenge it MOST definately, from my own personal experience, NOT an option. Good Luck and may the blessings be centered inside you...Posted 12-31-2012 at 10:56 AM by ridinhighrN13
