Should I stay Married?
Posted 08-26-2009 at 01:09 PM by cary2079
I met this man a little over 3 years ago, he was nice and we talked the first couple of nights for hours, we finally met in person to find out he was over 400lbs, I have no hang ups on weight, I myself was a few pounds over weight, I'm extremely shy; but I decide it to give this a try I had been single for a while., so he ends up taking me to his brother house, I was expecting a date, we had a good time, we got to my apt and even do we kissed like crazy nothing happened, he said he had to respect etc., 2 months into this strange relationship, we would not go to any dates, only to each other house., he gets really sick, I was in the hospital with him for a whole week, and his mother complained about the strain of money, to make a long story short I gave up my apt and moved in with him, he had no job and still no sex RESPECT, he was nice and treated me like no one ever did, a month later we where married and moved form the mothers house, still no sex later I find out he's impotent., after dragging and begging for him to go to a doctors appt. he did to find out not Viagra or Cialis or any of the market drugs work; here we are 3 years later nothing changes we don't do anything just eat and watch tv, should I give up sex for ever ., I'm a 31 responsible professional, I feel lonly and used, I want to feel loved and eximent gain, I'm so confused.,
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Why not post on the Relationships forum?Posted 08-26-2009 at 06:27 PM by 2goldens
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I think you should be brave enough to get your own happiness.
Compassion can't maintain the marriage.
But if you really love this man,even couldn't leave him at all,you'd better stay with him.
You must listen to your inner,what is you want.
And make a wise choice.
Best wishes for you!Posted 08-27-2009 at 03:12 AM by haller32
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As you are a professional, you probably have good health insurance. I think your husband would be a good candidate for some type of gastric bypass or lapband surgery. He could loose as much as 200 lbs in a year if he follows the program. I know several people who have been through this surgery and it worked for all except for one who refused to go to the counseling or keep to the program. Part of the program is cosmetic surgery after the weight is lost if the loose skin interfers with everyday life.
If he won't go for this, you have to let him go. Why should you believe in him if he doesn't believe in himself.
If he does it and is still unable to perform, you have a hard decision to make, but at least, you made it possible for him to function in society so you should have no guilt.Posted 08-28-2009 at 07:30 PM by yukiko11
