Born From The Heart: What to Tell, How to Tell, When to Tell (kids)

[no kudzu]

Why this adoptive mother decided to write a book about adoption.
And I'm glad she did.

An Adoptive Mom Under Fire

[susankate]

Originally Posted by no kudzu

Why this adoptive mother decided to write a book about adoption.
And I'm glad she did.

An Adoptive Mom Under Fire

I don't think the author was "under fire". I think the blogger, a fellow AP, was just trying to offer some constructive criticism.

Don't forget we did that ourselves a while back - remember the Family Troll? We did get him to change the name. I did try to point out to him also that perhaps the book wasn't best aimed for the adoptee/foster child market.

[nj185]

It's a fairy tale, addressing a specific question or need she felt her son had. I can't judge that. I do find it a mistake for others to extrapolate it into "the" adoption story. As that, it lacks what most kids[adopted or not]want to hear about - them. What was happening to them when this "heart pregnancy" was going on?

Fairy tales and adoption are a complicated issue. There have always been fairy tales about everything - which we as adults can put in perspective. How a child internalizes them can be surprising. As a piece of a much larger whole I suppose they can be a cute little addition in explaining how AP's felt or the AP's philosophy like The Red Thread. But with adoption I believe you have to be careful with fairy tales - there are already too many out there under the guise of "common knowledge". From the articles which quote the author, this one seems to be part of a larger conversation with her child.