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I disagree, I think there's something to the social perception of a married couple as opposed to an unmarried one which is part of why people want it. People not in the marriage treat a marriage as more serious and more deserving of respect then a regular relationship, and there's alot of cultural tradition surrounding weddings, anniversaries, little stuff like that. That's why I think there's something more to marriage then mere law, it's an institution that still has quite a bit of significance sociologically.
I guess my point was, that if you are going through a ritual merely to appease family, that should be a warning sign that family will likely have too much power in the marriage. The none of their business questions like "when are you going to make us grandparents", etc.
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I married a theist and we did a religious ceremony. It didn't kill me.
I think just about any ceremomony is OK, provided both parties are comfortable with it. But a wedding ceremony is a big deal culture-wise so you should at least do something!
Geez, took til page 5 to find someone like me?
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My wife believes. I don't. She knows. We got married in a church with a catholic priest. Blahblah nod your head, speak your vows and then PARTY TIME. What's the big deal?
It made her happy.
And we have been making each other happy ever since!
Disagree that "doing it just for the family gives the family power over your life" Asheville. Come on. That's weak.
Wow, non-religious people don't marry for religious reasons? Who would have guessed
That's crazy talk. Next thing you know someone is going to say non-religous people have a code of ethics that has nothing to do with religion. Blasphemy!!!!
Geez, took til page 5 to find someone like me?
haha
My wife believes. I don't. She knows. We got married in a church with a catholic priest. Blahblah nod your head, speak your vows and then PARTY TIME. What's the big deal?
It made her happy.
And we have been making each other happy ever since!
Disagree that "doing it just for the family gives the family power over your life" Asheville. Come on. That's weak.
Obvious that is what your wife wanted, she is your partner, thus non-issue.
My point was if it is for "the family" and both of you just went along because of the pressure to please, "the family". I would suspect that the father of the bride checkbook has also been used for leverage to control the couple, a bad precedent to start a family on. You both are leaving family and starting your own, nor are you marrying the "in-laws".
Marriage is actually of the government, not of god. Otherwise Christians would not bother with marriage licenses, but would simply marry in the Church and ignore the state.
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Marriage is actually of the government, not of god. Otherwise Christians would not bother with marriage licenses, but would simply marry in the Church and ignore the state.
Yes, and of course, Christians also are dependent on the government to dealing with their divorces.
"believe in getting married" is odd phrasing. And I fail to see any inherent link between committed human relationships and religion, or between the myriad benefits of civil marriage and religion.
My wife and I were married 19 years ago. No deities were invited. And a good time was had by all.
My anti-marriage views have very little to do with me being an atheist. I think marriage is an antiquated instituation. The only people who really benefit from marriage are religious institutions and the government. I was married once, for 7 years. The only thing that contract did for my relationship was ruin it. People get complacent. Even though it's not really all that difficult to get a divorce, the mindset makes people think it's harder to leave, therefore they tend to stop trying. When you look at the origins of marriage, it was invented as a way to own people. If I somehow changed my mind on marriage, I would have a big ceremony, there just wouldn't be a church, a priest and the traditional religious BS. It would be scripted by myself and the bride, with our own vows, etc.
I am Wiccan & my husband is an atheist. We decided to get married for many reasons. The biggest reason was that we really love each other. Financial reasons also helped. I could get on his health insurance, he got a military dependent ID which opens doors. I also got a little bit more in my monthly pay. Etc. etc.
When it came time to plan the wedding, it was my atheist husband who suggested a Wiccan ceremony. We really wanted to make it as "nontraditional" as possible. We walked down the aisle hand in hand, we included parts of "The Prophet" by Kahlil Gibran, and with our vows, we said to each other, "I chose YOU...." Ok, so we did do the traditional kiss. We also did handfasting & jumped over the broom at the end. What I really like about it was in the receiving line, everyone took little ribbons and tied it onto our broom. Each ribbon was their wish for us. Our broom is hanging in our foyer with everyone's wishes on it.
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