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For the few friends I have here on C-D who I have not hooked up with on FB, my wife Elaine passed away 28 April from a brain haemorrhage caused by an aneurysm. It was a huge shock to the family as she never was a sickly person.
She died the same day we got engaged (officially) 29 years ago. We were together 30 years and never split since we started dating.
I have shared a lot about our life and love life together on my FB timeline
Elaine when we met and what she looked like recently.
This is far worse than the time I lost my faith.
We did a video montage of her life set to some of the music she loved for her funeral and a small religious portion for some of her family who are still believers. It was the 5 videos we did however, that left no dry eye amongst the attendees.
This was my Eulogy to her
Elaine was a person that exuded Love and Kindness. Everyone knew her as a Happy, Jolly person with a smile and a laugh to brighten your day. She was not one to complain ever; even when we perhaps knew she was a bit down. Everyone she came into contact with, their day was brightened up and wherever she worked, was a positive influence and personality. Even when she was ill before her passing, when asked how she was, it was always “fine” – negativity was not something she subscribed to.
Her kindness extended to those in need and did help folk out financially and materially when she was able. Giving for her was always rewarding and she never looked for acknowledgement or thanks. This even extended into the animal kingdom with her love of animals.
No task for her was ever too daunting, no challenge too big and no mountain too tall; in fact mountains crumbled in her presence.
The two words that best describes her are “Good Samaritan”.
From the time we met, there was never airs and graces, she never looked down on anybody but held herself in high regard no matter the locale.
When you were weak she was strong and she always gave more than she took, perhaps why she went so young. She complained of being tired of late and wished for just two weeks constant sleep to recharge her batteries. Sadly, the charger was not working properly.
She will be sorely missed by all that knew her. Rest in Peace my LOVE. May angels guide you home to your Granny and your Dad whom you loved so much…
What a lovely tribute to a great woman. My deepest condolences. I think this also points out that unbelievers are human, too -- we love deeply, do good works, and make the world a better place. And we can be respectful and caring about the sensibilities of believers.
My wife died six years ago at the age of 56 after a long, grinding illness, so I know first hand what you are going through. My guess is that this isn't your first experience with grief and loss but it will be by far the most difficult. It helps to understand how your mind works through such experiences (Google "Thanatology"). It's a progression from numbness to grief and then a spiral of feeling better and worse. Be patient with yourself, and focus on the enormous good fortune to have spent three decades together. Because she was such an intimate part of your daily life for so long, the grief will be hard, even terrible at times, but I'm sure you'll agree the experience of sharing life with her is worth that cost.
Location: Sitting on a bar stool. Guinness in hand.
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My sincerest condolences SeekerSA.
I hope/wish for you..........that as you go through the grieving process, that it is as free from psychological anguish as possible. I wish you peace and as much solace as you can have at this time.
Thank you for sharing this and some of your words about your wife. She seemed like a wonderful person and that you two had a great life and marriage together. Its nice to learn of others who manage to have that kind of long-lasting love story despite all odds. You two were very, very fortunate!
I am so sorry for your loss, especially so suddenly.
I am so sorry to read about this. She sounds as if she was a wonderful, loving person, and what a peaceful, pleasant face she has in those pictures. I hope your memories can help sustain you through your grief.
So very sorry, your tribute was lovely, sounds like your marriage was filled with love and respect. My husband died 7 years ago after a 12 year battle with cancer, I understand your heartache.
You were so lucky to have her heart, and to share in her life. My thoughts are with you Seeker. Your eulogy is beautiful. Please share often, we will be here to lend an ear for you.
For the few friends I have here on C-D who I have not hooked up with on FB, my wife Elaine passed away 28 April from a brain haemorrhage caused by an aneurysm.
I don't do "FB" but I always thought of you as a friend. I realize this is a tremendous loss for you...
Offering condolences....
Mircea
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