Dating Scene in LA vs Bay Area for straight, 30-y.o. female? (San Francisco: schools)

[ViolentScarlet]

I'm thinking of moving to LA or San Francisco/Bay Area but will have to end my current relationship to do so. Perhaps I'm just paranoid and this should not be a factor in where I decide to move, but I'm slightly worried about my dating prospects once I move. To give context, I'm 30, Asian-American, college-educated white collar professional (yuppie, I guess), above-average looks but not a knockout by any means - probably a 6.5, size 6, 5'7. I'd prefer to move to LA, and I'm under the impression that LA has proportionally more straight, single guys in their late 20s-mid 30s but I'm wondering if most of them, at least the ones with any brains/education/income/decent looks, only want to date actress/model type females since there are so many in LA. And I'm probably not interested in dating a struggling actor/screenwriter or someone over 45/under 26. I don't care if the guy has super-deep pockets, but I do want the pockets to be deep enough that I'm not the one paying for all the dates/his upkeep. I know Silicon Valley has a lot of single, straight men but I'd be in SF proper anyway, where I think things are probably more difficult for someone like me.
I don't really have a race/religion preference, and don't think my standards are unreasonable, except that I'd like someone taller than me and in decent shape, and at least as intelligent as me. I'm in no huge rush to marry and have kids, but would like to at least meet some people with whom I can see that being a possibility.
None of this would have been a concern for me five years ago when I was younger and hotter, but now I can't help myself. Am I worrying for nothing?

[sourdough]

In Spokane,Wa. you are a 10+, think about it.

[MtnSurfer]

Hmm,

I think you have a misconception regarding LA. Remember LA is the largest county in the nation with ~ 10 million ppl. And the majority of single men are Not looking to date some movie star. I grew up in LA and the whole Hollywood scene to me was the last place I went to looking for a date. Keep in mind LA is a huge economic center with great schools like UCLA, USC, CalTech, etc... and there are many large corporations there are well. LA is the Aerospace capital of the West Coast, some would even argue the world.

While living in the South Bay area and working in Aerospace I had many Asian friends your age who I worked with. There is a large Asian presence there. But the city is also fully diverse in many ways - race, religion, socio-economic status, etc... And there are many straight yuppie males. So I don't think you would necassaily have a hard time meeting someone. Most would depend on you and how you go about meeting people. I always recommend looking for ppl with common interests whether that be through taking surfing lessons, joining a hiking club, taking a class at the local college, joining a church or synagogue, etc... This is a much more relaxing environment to meet ppl your own age and simply get to know them vs. going to the clubs/bars.

Although I prefer living along the Central Coast now, I think LA may be better for you than SF based on what you are describing.

Hope that helps some,

Derek

[BayAreaHillbilly]

Why end a relationship just to move to the second failing state in the US (the first being Michigan)?

[funkykatt]

Don't come here looking for a guy, that's a really foolish idea, like something I would do.

Come to California if you there is something here to improve your life like a great job.

I'll bet there are lots of great guys in your area (maybe I should move near you??), you just have not run into them. You're so very young, give yourself a chance.

Do something crazy when you reach my age and all your chances are washed up.