You would NEVER hear this in California. (Berkeley, Stanford: tenant, schools)

[Tex?Il?]

Say what you will about California culture, but amongst the snobiest people in California, you would NEVER hear this in California. Even the most elite of the Bay Area intelligentsia you wouldn't hear this. So East coast.

Please I don't want to offend anyone. I know the vast majority of east coasters are open-minded, but know: I would take worst Hollywood rich, most dim-witted douchebags or the most ultra liberal, LSD taking Marxists of Berkeley before her. It reminds me of why the east coast is not on the top of my list of regions to live in.

And this is coming from someone is in education/academia.


Alumna Advises Princeton Women to Find a Man on Campus - YouTube

[Billy Millennium]

That women could be a Stanford Mom just as easily writing into the school paper. Elitist attitudes go coast to coast.

[Charles22]

Sounds reasonable to me.

[BeauCharles]

I went to college in the Midwest and there were plenty of young women who were there for nothing but their Mrs. degree. Its not just the East or Princeton. I know plenty of people who ended up marrying their college sweetheart. Most didn't get married immediately after college, but usually by their mid to late 20's they were. So while the young women in the video were dismissing it as "I'm too young" she's not totally off-base in suggesting they look for their mate during those years. That long term relationship can take years to cultivate and shared experiences and values help. She may sound snobby, but people who go to elite schools (including Stanford) can be. The majority are clustered in the East, but their student body comes from everywhere.

[bigdumbgod]

Sounds more like a BYU story.

[Ghostly1]

Originally Posted by BeauCharles

I went to college in the Midwest and there were plenty of young women who were there for nothing but their Mrs. degree. Its not just the East or Princeton. I know plenty of people who ended up marrying their college sweetheart. Most didn't get married immediately after college, but usually by their mid to late 20's they were. So while the young women in the video were dismissing it as "I'm too young" she's not totally off-base in suggesting they look for their mate during those years. That long term relationship can take years to cultivate and shared experiences and values help. She may sound snobby, but people who go to elite schools (including Stanford) can be. The majority are clustered in the East, but their student body comes from everywhere.

Well, I didn't marry my college sweetheart but I definitely wanted to. I enlisted in the military and went to OCS to get a commission. My "plan" was to marry her as soon as I became a 2nd Lieutenant. She had other plans and sent me the standard "Dear John" letter early-on. Thank goodness!

We reconnected about five years ago after a bit over 40 years, thanks to the internet. Having gotten to know one another again it is obvious to me that a marriage would ultimately have been a disaster. I have to agree with those who said marriage at 22 is not a bright idea.

[jeremy2788]

I can kind of see her point.. good genes create good genes most of the time.. and ideally if two people from an elite school get married and have kids, they're kids will more than likely be better off than the average.

[SportyandMisty]

Over a generation ago, Stanford discovered a simple but interesting fact: the annual & lifetime donations to Stanford from a two-Stanford family (that is, an alumnus married to an alumnae -- both husband & wife are Stanford graduates) greatly exceeded the annual & lifetime donations from two grads who were not married to fellow Stanford graduates.

Since the goal of Stanford's Alumni office is to maximize the net present value of future donations, they hired lots of consultants to figure out how to encourage Stanford grads to marry other Stanford grads.

Anecdotally, I have friends where they are both Stanford grads -- she has her BA; he has his BS/MS/PhD. They claim to give $50K/year to Stanford, and have for decades. Oh -- their twin boys are seniors at Stanford this year as well.

[Tex?Il?]

Originally Posted by jeremy2788

I can kind of see her point.. good genes create good genes most of the time.. and ideally if two people from an elite school get married and have kids, they're kids will more than likely be better off than the average.

I can understand the point in general, but I would completely understand if suggested say, to marry someone with a PhD. or someone other remarkable achievement. That would've made more sense to me. (and I say that as one has only earned my Masters).

But just as many students goof off and squander their college years at elite universities just as much as regular state universities.

I'm in the academic/education world, and I believe that once you get beyond a threshhold of quality, after that, its just what you make of it.

[Tex?Il?]

So maybe I'm fighting ignorance with more ignorance, but after all these threads with posters broad brushing painting Southern California as fake and superficial, I just felt like doing some broad brush painting myself.