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Originally Posted by wayover20
What helps me most (and everyone's different) is when family/friends expressed their support more than sympathy and most of all respected my need to be alone when I asked for it. I'm one of those who is stubbornly independant and will ask for help only when I really need it so to have people constantly visiting me was not helpful.
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I agree. One of my friends offered to come up from FL and stay with me. I sincerely appreciated the kind offer, but if she came I would have felt like I had to go to a bunch of work to get ready for her visit. I also had friends offer to cook meals. I also appreciated that, but my husband is capable and when I felt up to it, I enjoyed cooking to make myself feel like I was keeping up the normal routine.
What I want to stress is that when people offer to do things for you, they REALLY mean it. So accept what you really want, or suggest something else because it makes folks happy to help. Like once I told someone that I had dinner covered, but would they mind picking up some books for me at the library?
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