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Anyone who's a caregiver for a spouse of family member, do you often feel like the only way to get of this horrible lifestyle is to kill yourself? Do you often feel that your loved one would probably fare better medically and financially if you weren't around?
Anyone who's a caregiver for a spouse of family member, do you often feel like the only way to get of this horrible lifestyle is to kill yourself? Do you often feel that your loved one would probably fare better medically and financially if you weren't around?
You should seek some professional help if you really feel this way. It sounds like you need to take an extended break and let someone else take over for a while. Being a caregiver can be one of the most thankless tasks one can do. It can be emotional, trying and heart breaking. No human can withstand this indefinately. Take a break, get some help and when you feel better, come back.
Suicidal thoughts are an indicator of depression. Please help the person with these thoughts get better by getting them to a psychiatrist for an evaluation. Medication and counseling will help.
Yes I have depression. Yes I take something to help. No I don't see a counseler anymore since Psychiatric care isn't covered by insurance. But that doesn't resolve the root cause of the problem, i.e. being the Caregiver and sole responsible party. Throw in laws and ridiculous policies that prevent me from being able to do more, lonliness and isolation, financial security, the loss of our house, cars, and almost all of our property, and there's not much left over to hold on to.
Yes I have depression. Yes I take something to help. No I don't see a counseler anymore since Psychiatric care isn't covered by insurance. But that doesn't resolve the root cause of the problem, i.e. being the Caregiver and sole responsible party. Throw in laws and ridiculous policies that prevent me from being able to do more, lonliness and isolation, financial security, the loss of our house, cars, and almost all of our property, and there's not much left over to hold on to.
OK, so it is not the care giving only, it is the overall circumstances.
Yes, it appears, you are in a difficult situation.
I would suggest, try to get help in your caregiving. May be your relative, or perhaps your state (NC) can assign you some nurse/nurse aid at least on part time basis, so you could take some breaks and put yourself together physically and especially mentally.
Sorry to see, that it is so tough for you. Hope, things will turn better!
Yes I have depression. Yes I take something to help. No I don't see a counseler anymore since Psychiatric care isn't covered by insurance. But that doesn't resolve the root cause of the problem, i.e. being the Caregiver and sole responsible party. Throw in laws and ridiculous policies that prevent me from being able to do more, lonliness and isolation, financial security, the loss of our house, cars, and almost all of our property, and there's not much left over to hold on to.
There is so much more! You have life, you breathe, you have your senses. In my humble opinion, that is life! Experiences, good and bad. You cannot give up. I have a horrific terminal degenerative neurological condition that will take my life in the most brutal way in less then 5 years. Yet I awake with a smile each day and look forward to life's experiences no matter how small or insignificant others think they might be.
Please, get some help! There is help out there, you can and will get through this! If I can do it, so can you
I am a caregiver and have for been over time for a mother in law, my father, and my mother while working a full time job and in between raising kids. You HAVE to find a way to care for yourself and not loose yourself in the process. You need some help. You need some friends. Is there a caregiver support group, a church, any group of people you can relate to? Many people hae to do this under horible circumstances. If push comes to shove you cannot feel guilty if you have to put the person you are caring for in a home because you are no good to anybody if ou are not good to you.
closest i get is when i do the 10,000 volts out 3 watts back thing. but that is not anywhere near close to serious but that is in fact the danger zone. normally the delight i experience by disappointing my enemies sustains me.
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