Then-spouse accepted a position; we had just experienced the worst blizzard on record (to date - 1979 - 36" snow in 12 hours) in Chicago on top of 18 inches on the ground already. I followed him, because at that time, that's what one did. I am still here, but am contemplating leaving for "home" because the children are gainfully employed - jobs with benefits - and no longer need me in that sense. We'll see....