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For those of you who moved with teens that told you how much they would hate you if you moved them from up north to NC, do they get over it???? Want to move by next school year but don't want kids to "hate" us! Bribery will only get us so far!
Moderator cut: Soliciting business not allowed in the forums But as a mother and previously a Social Worker I feel that you should approach this very thoughtfully. If you don't have a choice that's one thing; you've got to go where the job is. But if your teens are truly established in their schools, doing well with academics and sports, extracurricular activities and have a good circle of quality friends think it over carefully before you uproot them. If you have to move here for your job or because of the cost of living, just have that tough conversation with them and chances are they will be understanding. Let them know you're counting on their cooperation and support. And, as always...let me know if I can help.
Apparently you are too far removed from high school to recall what things are like for "new" kids. By the time kids are in their teens they have established cliques that are hard to break into. Your kids will be straight up screwed if you move them during their teenage years.
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If they are freshmen in HS or in middle school it could possibly work. If they are Juniors/Seniors, then you do run the risk of it being a bad memory for years. In fact my realtor who was someone I knew in high school and then left her senior year, still talks about it as a negative experience- that was 20+ years ago....
My parents uprooted me in the summer after tenth grade and i thought I would hate them for life!!! We lived in the city and I could walk to wherever I wanted to go. My friends from kindergarten and up were there. My older brothers and sisters were there. I am the youngest, and from a second marriage, and like an only child, but I have much older siblings, so I was taken from them.
We moved into a house on hwy 460 in Virginia. Fields behind us, to the right, and the left. No neighbors in sight. Woods across the hwy. I thought they hated me... But I started 11th grade and made new friends. I had a boyfriend before long, and there was a group of us that 'hung out' The high schools were overcrowded so they built 2 new ones. The area I live in is where all the people from va beack, Norfolk, and all that move to, to get out of the city. So, I was rezoned, and not the first one of my friends was at the high school. Only me.All of my friends went to vo tech, and I saw them there, luck of the draw we all got afternoons. So in the am I went to my classes, made a few friends, but none that I can remember now... I met my husband in high school, at vo tech, and we are still together now. I look back and I am so happy we moved. I have my kids, my husband. I have no family here. Unfortunetly both of my parents have passed. My Dad when I was 21, and my Mom when I was 26. I only see my siblings the one time a year, so when we move, it wont make a difference. My kids didn't want to move, but now they are looking foward to it. My son will go into 8th grade, and my daughter into 6th. Good luck. It was a hard way to go for me as a teenager.
I agree with Miker ....junior/senior, kind of hard. I didn't go to my senior prom, because the zoning had changed, I ended up being a loner in 12th, didn't meet dh til very end of the school year.
My parents moved me in eighth grade (from one country to another) and I STILL need therapy!
Ditto, except I was in the 7th grade.
If it is just a matter of them being the new kids on the block I can almost guarantee that they will not be the only ones.
Obviously its a big decision and only you and your family can make the final call. Good Luck either way I hope it works out for you!
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But I started 11th grade and made new friends. I had a boyfriend before long, and there was a group of us that 'hung out' The high schools were overcrowded so they built 2 new ones. The area I live in is where all the people from va beack, Norfolk, and all that move to, to get out of the city. So, I was rezoned, and not the first one of my friends was at the high school. Only me.All of my friends went to vo tech, and I saw them there, luck of the draw we all got afternoons. So in the am I went to my classes, made a few friends, but none that I can remember now... I met my husband in high school, at vo tech, and we are still together now. I look back and I am so happy we moved. I have my kids, my husband. I have no family here. Unfortunetly both of my parents have passed. My Dad when I was 21, and my Mom when I was 26. I only see my siblings the one time a year, so when we move, it wont make a difference. My kids didn't want to move, but now they are looking foward to it. My son will go into 8th grade, and my daughter into 6th. Good luck. It was a hard way to go for me as a teenager.
