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Old 07-18-2013, 09:37 AM
 
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So there's this online social startup called Grouper, where they set up 3 on 3 "dates." You sign up, and they look at your facebook profile to determine "matches." The guys pre-pay for first round of drinks, and grouper picks the bar, date, and time where you meet the girls. You have no idea what they look like until you get there.

Ok. So I just described the site; here's the dilemma. I'm an Asian-American male professional here in the city, who is about to move to Boston in late summer for business school. Two of my friends, who're also asian and well-educated pressured me to go on a grouper date early next month. I didn't see the point in doing it since I'm leaving the city so soon but I thought "what the heck." My concern is this: most likely the girls will be white, and I'm worried that they will feel awkward once they see 3 kind of dorky asian guys. Now I'm 6 feet and in great shape and definitely not ugly but i'm definitely a dork. And from my years of living in Chicago, white girls are just not open to minorities due to various cultural and social factors.

I'm kind of getting nervous and freaking out. Am I overreacting here?
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Old 07-18-2013, 09:42 AM
 
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You already started a thread about this 1.5 months ago. Nobody's answers changed in the 12 pages of discussions in that 1.5 months.

//www.city-data.com/forum/chica...ican-male.html

I see Asian male - white woman couples almost weekly now. I saw multiple last weekend in fact. Nobody's answers have changed.
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Old 07-18-2013, 09:50 AM
 
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Yep, pretty common in the burbs too. In fact I thing the census bureau said such households likely have the highest median incomes. Dorky or not the bottomline is going to come down to putting yourself out there...
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Old 07-18-2013, 09:50 AM
 
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You already started a thread about this 1.5 months ago. Nobody's answers changed in the 12 pages of discussions in that 1.5 months.

//www.city-data.com/forum/chica...ican-male.html

I see Asian male - white woman couples almost weekly now. I saw multiple last weekend in fact. Nobody's answers have changed.

What part of the city do you see these couples? I live in river north and very rarely see asian guy-white girl couples in downtown area, west loop, or lincoln park.
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Old 07-18-2013, 10:04 AM
 
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What part of the city do you see these couples? I live in river north and very rarely see asian guy-white girl couples in downtown area, west loop, or lincoln park.
Recently? Gold Coast, River North, Logan Square, Wicker Park, Lakeview, Lincoln Square, etc. 2 of my last three girlfriends were Asian, though I'm a middle eastern/white male, not Asian, but still (and I live in Gold Coast).

Hell, even at club Ohm in Wicker Park (which I referenced in your previous thread), I have gone with women (white or hispanic) who love Asian men.



Again, you asked this 1.5 months ago. Nobody's answers have changed. Stop worrying. While some people find this important, if a woman is going to reject you because you are Asian, then she's not worth your time anyway. A lot of younger people don't think like this anymore (yes, some do but it's no different race to race).
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Old 07-18-2013, 10:04 AM
 
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Evidently some Asian guys are doing OK on grouper dates.


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Old 07-18-2013, 10:09 AM
 
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Recently? Gold Coast, River North, Logan Square, Wicker Park, Lakeview, Lincoln Square, etc. 2 of my last three girlfriends were Asian, though I'm a middle eastern/white male, not Asian, but still (and I live in Gold Coast).

Hell, even at club Ohm in Wicker Park (which I referenced in your previous thread), I have gone with women (white or hispanic) who love Asian men.



Again, you asked this 1.5 months ago. Nobody's answers have changed. Stop worrying. While some people find this important, if a woman is going to reject you because you are Asian, then she's not worth your time anyway. A lot of younger people don't think like this anymore (yes, some do but it's no different race to race).
Thanks. I guess I'm being overly paranoid. Lol.

I suppose it depends on the girls in question as well. The typical Big 10 sorority white girls I meet at lincoln park bars for instance are very narrow-minded when it comes to interracial dating and would not even consider an Asian guy.
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Old 07-18-2013, 10:13 AM
 
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My Korean friend says:

'tell him to just go for it. encourage the white girls to think... "once you have asian, you never go caucasian"'
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Old 07-18-2013, 10:14 AM
 
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I suppose it depends on the girls in question as well. The typical Big 10 sorority white girls I meet at lincoln park bars for instance are very narrow-minded when it comes to interracial dating and would not even consider an Asian guy.
Sure, but that's to be expected in Lincoln Park. You need to get outside of that. It's typical Big 10 frat ****. Go to Wicker Park, Logan Square, Ukrainian Village, etc
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Old 07-18-2013, 10:16 AM
 
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Sure, but that's to be expected in Lincoln Park. You need to get outside of that. It's typical Big 10 frat ****. Go to Wicker Park, Logan Square, Ukrainian Village, etc
Yeah but those are the girls I find attractive physically. Lol.

Why are they so narrow minded on interracial dating? I guess it's the general provincial midwestern mindset?
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