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Maybe the title really doesnt go along with my line of thought..or maybe it does..Idk..
Does anyone let first impressions of someone dictate how they act toward a person?
Are first impressions usually accurate?
Have you ever met someone..and just felt "something is strange here?" I know lots of questions this morning..I just have a habit I guess of listening and watching how other people communicate or dont communicate..IS my first impression to someone else one that says "Im a happy person..there is something different about me" or is it.."dont mess with me cause im having a bad day"..and if it the latter..will it come back to haunt me in my job..or my witness? If Im rude to the girl/guy at the check out stand..who watching..Am I showing the love of Christ? Did I just show that person that its okay to be rude. obnoxious..and a Christian? Did I just cut the pastor of another church off..in traffic..will he remember me if I visit their church? What kind of impression do I leave?
Last edited by arguy1973; 10-17-2007 at 06:49 AM..
I hate to say it, but yes, I think I am swayed by that first impression. Was it a smile or a look of dismissal? I don't know if I make mistakes, but if that first impression turns me off, then it's very unlikely that I will get to know that person well enough to know that I made a mistake.
There are people that give off strange vibes. It's hard to describe, but it's sort of a 'be wary' situation. I think it's the same sort of inate sense that dogs have when strangers come into your home.....is this person someone to welcome, or is this a person that you should watch carefully?
There's never an excuse for rudeness. It never helps a situation. The worse thing is that with some people, I think it becomes a habit.
Smile....you might be suprised what you get in return.
In real life 1st impressions are very important, because I always compare people's body language (or their actions) with what people say.
Online there is no body language so I always compare previous posts with each other to get a better idea of someone's character.
I don't think anybody first impressions are accurate. I give peopls a second chance,while keeping that first impression in the back of my mind.
If everybody could read the heart of someone then we would be more accurate.God is the only person who can read the heart of man and their true feelings.
People can change somewhat the second- time around in attitude or appearance,where God is immutable(never changing),He is who He says He is.
I leave the judgemental aspect up to the Lord because He is the righteous one
Maybe the title really doesnt go along with my line of thought..or maybe it does..Idk..
Does anyone let first impressions of someone dictate how they act toward a person?
Are first impressions usually accurate?
Have you ever met someone..and just felt "something is strange here?" I know lots of questions this morning..I just have a habit I guess of listening and watching how other people communicate or dont communicate..IS my first impression to someone else one that says "Im a happy person..there is something different about me" or is it.."dont mess with me cause im having a bad day"..and if it the latter..will it come back to haunt me in my job..or my witness? If Im rude to the girl/guy at the check out stand..who watching..Am I showing the love of Christ? Did I just show that person that its okay to be rude. obnoxious..and a Christian? Did I just cut the pastor of another church off..in traffic..will he remember me if I visit their church? What kind of impression do I leave?
I try not to let first impressions affect my opinion of people.
otherwise they tend to be self fullfilling.
Maybe the title really doesnt go along with my line of thought..or maybe it does..Idk..
Does anyone let first impressions of someone dictate how they act toward a person?
Are first impressions usually accurate?
Have you ever met someone..and just felt "something is strange here?" I know lots of questions this morning..I just have a habit I guess of listening and watching how other people communicate or dont communicate..IS my first impression to someone else one that says "Im a happy person..there is something different about me" or is it.."dont mess with me cause im having a bad day"..and if it the latter..will it come back to haunt me in my job..or my witness? If Im rude to the girl/guy at the check out stand..who watching..Am I showing the love of Christ? Did I just show that person that its okay to be rude. obnoxious..and a Christian? Did I just cut the pastor of another church off..in traffic..will he remember me if I visit their church? What kind of impression do I leave?
I think first impressions can be a double-edged sword and may be used as a vehicle of deception. Sometimes people are not who they appear to be. Nor, are they the some total of their behavior at any one given time. U may meet a person who comes across as nice and down to earth, but after spending some time with that person your opinion may change. First impressions may be important and lasting. The problem is they can be wrong. They are not based upon solid or immutable facts, but the information we can gather from our senses in the moment. I wish as a Christian I always made a "good first impression" but I am sure that is not the case. I may meet someone when I am not having one of my best moments. Does this make me a "bad person" or any less Christian? I am a work in progress. I am being perfected, but I am not perfect yet. I may or may not be able to overcome that impression. This is why it is important to pay attention to what the Bible says: we are to know no man after the flesh...but by their fruits we shall know them... I think first impressions are often inaccurate.
I know I have left some regrettable first impressions...and also have had mistaken first impressions of others. We always will have first impressions.. can't get around that, but what I TRY to do is to give people the benefit of the doubt.. You don't really know them at all the first time you meet them..
A question: How conscious should we be about others' first impressions of us? If we're trying to "put on a good front", we're not being ourselves, are we? Won't people notice that? And yet I shouldn't be careless about the way I come across... Where's the balance?
Well it's completely human to quickly assess what a person is about by how they interact with you the first time you meet them. I never try to make a good first impression because I think it's more important to be myself...hopefully myself is good enough for most. As for others my first impression/instincts are usually right on target...good or bad it usually pans out that is how that person really is. I don't let that influence my interactions with people when I have to deal with them ongoing, such as work, but if my first impression of someone is not favorable I will not usually trust them and, if I can, avoid dealing with them when I can.
If it helps, my first impressions of you, Arguy, were all warm and fuzzy!
Well it's completely human to quickly assess what a person is about by how they interact with you the first time you meet them. I never try to make a good first impression because I think it's more important to be myself...hopefully myself is good enough for most. As for others my first impression/instincts are usually right on target...good or bad it usually pans out that is how that person really is. I don't let that influence my interactions with people when I have to deal with them ongoing, such as work, but if my first impression of someone is not favorable I will not usually trust them and, if I can, avoid dealing with them when I can.
If it helps, my first impressions of you, Arguy, were all warm and fuzzy!
awww..how sweet of you...were you drinking when you read my first post? lol j/k...j/k
awww..how sweet of you...were you drinking when you read my first post? lol j/k...j/k
ROFL!!!! Of course not...I never drink until AFTER my coffee.
But speaking of drinking and first impressions....
When I was 22 I was at a formal company Christmas party...I had only started working at the company a month earlier and had not met any of the "big" guys yet. So I'm standing off to the side, totally bored and a bit buzzed and this guy comes over to say hi. He has on a tux with a red plaid bow tie...so I compliment him on not looking like the rest of the men there, whom were dressed just like the waiters...he laughed. There was a woman dancing and let's just say her dress was about 50lbs too tight on her...and she was dancing all out wild! So I said to this guy that some people really should be gifted mirrors from loved ones so they wouldn't go out of the house looking like that...again he laughed. So we people watched and commented for a bit more and then he asks what my name was, I introduced myself and where I worked...and then he introduced himself as the president of the company! After recovering from my totally red face, I told him "Well since the "good" first impression has flown out the window I guess I'll just be myself for the rest of the night." He mentored my career after that night and always made sure to socialize with me at events...everyone always wanted to know why and I never told.
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lol j/k...j/k
After recovering from my totally red face, I told him "Well since the "good" first impression has flown out the window I guess I'll just be myself for the rest of the night." He mentored my career after that night and always made sure to socialize with me at events...everyone always wanted to know why and I never told. 
