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My friend no-showed and the lied about why. KNOWING I had a limited head-count available for the venue.
I sure as hell wanted to bill her the $400 it cost me to make sure there was a spot for her.
Instead she's not my friend anymore (bc that was the final flakey straw that broke the camel's back).
Oh, and I look like a pretty big idiot asking her father how he was recovering from the stroke he never had.
Lol - I sent flowers with a lovely note to my co-worker's mother expressing sympathy for the death of her third husband, which she was having such a rough time dealing with that my co-worker needed to miss a week of work. I felt bad for the woman as I remembered that she had lost her second husband barely 2 years before, so I included my phone number in case there was anything I could do. She called all right. She wanted to know why I thought she had remarried even once, let alone twice.
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Well, that's one way to end a friendship real quick!
If you can't afford a big wedding, here's a crazy idea.....don't have one! Do what you can afford. If that's a 6 pack and 2 friends munching on Domino's, then that's your budget. That's life.
Maybe the friend did attempt to contact the bride, but with it happening the day of the wedding, chances are slim she would have reached her. And if she did, it certainly sounds like Ms. Bride would have gone off on her.....who would want to listen to that? The invitation said no children. She had a babysitter lined up. Things happen. She can't leave her kids home alone or in a car while she attended the wedding.
I am curious as to what others think about this. I think it's rude of the bride & groom to bill the no-show guest, but JUST as rude for the guest not to let them know she (and apparently a plus-one) couldn't go.
The last line says: "Jessica [the no-show] told the news organization she has no plans to pay [the bill]" ... but Jessica also didn't say why she didn't do something as simple as letting the bride and groom know that she couldn't be there. A simple email or phone call would have done the job. (Yes, I know it would have been on the couple's wedding day and they would have obviously been busy, but SOMEONE would have gotten the message.)
Headcounts are set prior to the actual wedding date. Even if she would have called, it would be very unlikely there would have been any refund at that point.
Every such invitation includes a very clear request: RSVP … with a specific request for a number: how many will be coming to dinner …
Invited guests who replied that they will attend, but don't … are thoughtless jerks …
She and her husband did plan on attending. At the last minute her mother couldn't come stay with the children, as it was a "no children" invitation and they had no one.
By the way, these folks are relatives. I cannot imagine sending a bill to someone like this, much less a relative. Life happens.
Gotta be a heck of a story behind this somewhere imo. But, I too think putting it out there publicly is uncalled for. Like I said....There has got to be some anger and resentment between these relatives somewhere.
Headcounts are set prior to the actual wedding date. Even if she would have called, it would be very unlikely there would have been any refund at that point.
Well, yes, of course (someone else pointed out the same thing in a DM). My point was not at all about the money lost -- it was about courtesy (or lack thereof), on both sides.
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