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Re "it's starting again", I wonder how many times kids are accidentally left in the car and DON'T die, just spend a day hungry and crying, because it wasn't hot enough to kill them. This just can't happen in the summer.
You mean men like me that raised their kids alone after their mom died? Please, tell me more.
Don't project your poor family social situation on the rest of us. Thanks.
I'd ask your more questions but I don't want to overwhelm your female brain. (Please note, this is intentional stereotypical commentary from 30 years ago best used only in rebuttal to such an archaic claim of mens roles and involvment in child rearing.)
There are exceptions to every "rule".
Have you made cupcakes at 10 PM because your kid forgot to tell you they'd signed you up for a donation the the bake sale? I'm sure you've got a story or two like that.
No social media
Cars didn't lock automatically after you exited car / no click button locks from key FOB
Kids weren't in car seats as much
Less distracted parents (cell phones etc...)
I will never understand it. Even when my kids weren't with me when I was at work, they were still on my mind. I wondered how their day was, did they miss me, etc. How does a parent just go to work and forget they have their child in the car? Do they never stop during the day and think "I wonder how little Samantha or Tyler is making out today" and then realize "oh my God, I don't remember taking him/her out of the car". It's just incomprehensible to me as a mother.
Many of these cases (the accidental ones) seem to be when the routine changed in some way. A stop on the way to work that the parent normally didn't do. A different parent taking a different kid. Etc. We are very routine-driven creatures. Have you ever made a wrong turn because you were on "auto-pilot" driving to work? It's that.
I will never understand it. Even when my kids weren't with me when I was at work, they were still on my mind. I wondered how their day was, did they miss me, etc. How does a parent just go to work and forget they have their child in the car? Do they never stop during the day and think "I wonder how little Samantha or Tyler is making out today" and then realize "oh my God, I don't remember taking him/her out of the car". It's just incomprehensible to me as a mother.
Did you miss that whole section where Lynn Balfour says she thought she actually remembered dropping Bryce off that morning? That she only realized she never did when she called the sitter to check on him because he'd had a cold? Because he WAS on her mind?
Of course not, because you didn't bother to read the Post article. It's more fun and important to you to sit on your high horse and sneer "I don't understand" in judgment of a grieving mother than to dare to read and learn and then maybe understand.
Many of these cases (the accidental ones) seem to be when the routine changed in some way. A stop on the way to work that the parent normally didn't do. A different parent taking a different kid. Etc. We are very routine-driven creatures. Have you ever made a wrong turn because you were on "auto-pilot" driving to work? It's that.
Right, it's the same process of thinking, "I turned the iron off, right? Of course I did. I always do. But did I?n Yes, yes I did." The person's thinking the baby's at day care. That's where the baby is supposed to be. Why would they think differently?
Right, it's the same process of thinking, "I turned the iron off, right? Of course I did. I always do. But did I?n Yes, yes I did." The person's thinking the baby's at day care. That's where the baby is supposed to be. Why would they think differently?
I've put a fast food order bag and drink on the roof of my car and started driving. I once found my missing cell phone in the refrigerator. I'm surprised my kid lived.
Re "it's starting again", I wonder how many times kids are accidentally left in the car and DON'T die, just spend a day hungry and crying, because it wasn't hot enough to kill them. This just can't happen in the summer.
I guess I should explain when I made the comment "It's starting again" I meant the reports of kids dying in hot cars was starting again not that kids were being left in cars were starting again. I'm sure it happens year round. We don't hear of this so much at other times of the year possibly because as you say it doesn't get hot enough for them to die so it doesn't make the news.
The second part of my post was in reference to the fact that this mother left her kids in the car on purpose. It made me wonder if maybe some of the past stories we heard about that were said to be accidents weren't although I'm sure most were.
So I hope this clears up the intention of my original post. Sorry I was not more clear in my meaning.
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