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How would doing work for Grandma pay her back the cash she took? After all, Grandma is not likely paying someone else for those services, except maybr landscaping and snow removal, so having the kid do it would not save money.
Maybe not, but the threat of slave labor might induce her to spill her guts about who she gave that money too. Either way, she's indebted to grandma.
Don't ignore that I also included sending her to juvie hall for a couple of years. What she did at her young age deserves a harsh sentence. It's called Tough Love. Grandma should have a say in all this. Let her decide if free labor will be of benefit to her.
Maybe not, but there are jobs that a 14-year-old can create, and some enterprising 14-year-olds do exactly that. I've seen 11-year-olds go around the neighborhood offering to weed people's yards.
I don't expect there will be a follow-up to this story, except maybe in the town where this took place. i'm curious to see if the grandmother was the girl's caregiver, and if so, what will happen next. Will she end up in the foster-care system? There's so much to this story that isn't being told.
About 16 years ago, one of my sons came home from middle school with a $100 bill that another student had given him.
He said he wasn't the only student that had been gifted a $100 bill. "He gave them to a lot of us!"
I put him straight in the car & drove him back to the school & we handed it directly to the Principal.
The Principal thanked us & said he would investigate. The next day I got a call from the Principal, asking me to come in. Turns out the other student has stolen his parent's tax refund money & they were not very financially stable to begin with.
It was sad, because that student was pretty socially awkward & was trying to "make friends".
It was sad, because my son knew that this week in particular, that I was flat broke & had 6 kids at home, had hardly any food left & my son was SO proud to walk in the door with money to help. He gave me the entire $100, saying "Look mom, you can go to the grocery store now!"
It was sad, because the Principal said that they were having to contact all the other parents & some parents KNEW that their kid came home from school with $100 but didn't do anything about it. In fact, some of the kids had already spent some of the money with their parent's knowledge & they weren't going to be able to recover it all. He said I was the only parent who reported it.
What was totally amazing is that the school knew we were a low-income family & the Principal had a $50 gift card for a grocery store waiting in his office for me, as a way to say thank you! So I got to tell my son thank you so much for helping me get groceries after all, because he did the right thing.
About 16 years ago, one of my sons came home from middle school with a $100 bill that another student had given him.
He said he wasn't the only student that had been gifted a $100 bill. "He gave them to a lot of us!"
I put him straight in the car & drove him back to the school & we handed it directly to the Principal.
The Principal thanked us & said he would investigate. The next day I got a call from the Principal, asking me to come in. Turns out the other student has stolen his parent's tax refund money & they were not very financially stable to begin with.
It was sad, because that student was pretty socially awkward & was trying to "make friends".
It was sad, because my son knew that this week in particular, that I was flat broke & had 6 kids at home, had hardly any food left & my son was SO proud to walk in the door with money to help. He gave me the entire $100, saying "Look mom, you can go to the grocery store now!"
It was sad, because the Principal said that they were having to contact all the other parents & some parents KNEW that their kid came home from school with $100 but didn't do anything about it. In fact, some of the kids had already spent some of the money with their parent's knowledge & they weren't going to be able to recover it all. He said I was the only parent who reported it.
What was totally amazing is that the school knew we were a low-income family & the Principal had a $50 gift card for a grocery store waiting in his office for me, as a way to say thank you! So I got to tell my son thank you so much for helping me get groceries after all, because he did the right thing.
Honesty is ALWAYS the best policy. You were able to spend that $50 gift card guilt-free because you knew you had gotten it honestly. If you had spent that $100, your conscience would have hounded you for a long, long time. And kudos to your son for doing the right thing and for wanting to help his family.
About 16 years ago, one of my sons came home from middle school with a $100 bill that another student had given him.
He said he wasn't the only student that had been gifted a $100 bill. "He gave them to a lot of us!"
I put him straight in the car & drove him back to the school & we handed it directly to the Principal.
The Principal thanked us & said he would investigate. The next day I got a call from the Principal, asking me to come in. Turns out the other student has stolen his parent's tax refund money & they were not very financially stable to begin with.
It was sad, because that student was pretty socially awkward & was trying to "make friends".
It was sad, because my son knew that this week in particular, that I was flat broke & had 6 kids at home, had hardly any food left & my son was SO proud to walk in the door with money to help. He gave me the entire $100, saying "Look mom, you can go to the grocery store now!"
It was sad, because the Principal said that they were having to contact all the other parents & some parents KNEW that their kid came home from school with $100 but didn't do anything about it. In fact, some of the kids had already spent some of the money with their parent's knowledge & they weren't going to be able to recover it all. He said I was the only parent who reported it.
What was totally amazing is that the school knew we were a low-income family & the Principal had a $50 gift card for a grocery store waiting in his office for me, as a way to say thank you! So I got to tell my son thank you so much for helping me get groceries after all, because he did the right thing.
Great example of when the right thing happens it happens all the way down the line.
You showed your son the right way and that will always be with him. It's about having self worth and integrity. Your conscious is clear.
If we're not honest with ourself then holes will start in the soul and nothing will ever fill them again.
Blessings to you
Last edited by bellamax2; 10-24-2022 at 03:03 PM..
Older generations cannot expect young people to have morals when less morals are being taught each year in school, TV and online.
That's parents responsibility.
Learning starts at home and family members are the first teachers. So parents must make sure that they teach moral values to their kids from early on.
They are also responsible for much bigger lessons like the difference between right and wrong.
The main authoritative figures children observe are their own parents. Everything that their parents do generally influence their child’s behavior.
I agree with a post that she should go to juvenile hall and there she can scrub floors.
The parents should put her in one of those boot camp type places for problem teens.
She needs to start babysitting, dog walking, washing cars soon to earn some money to start paying back her Grandmother.
I started babysitting at 12 after school and weekends. That paid for my school supplies & records and I would buy something fun at Woolworth's for .10 - .15. The rest I put in my piggybank. When I was 15 I got a work permit and worked at a small dept store after school and weekends.
Nothing good comes out of stolen money. It doesn't belong to the person that knows it's stolen.
We have free will. It's our choice to do the right thing or don't and pay the consequences later on down the road in life. It will always be in the back of the person mind, oh that wrong thing happened because I chose not to give back the stolen money.
Last edited by bellamax2; 10-24-2022 at 09:13 PM..
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