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You seem kind of woeful. Maybe you aren't fun to be around? We usually get back what we give out. I've said this many times on C-D; if you are feeling empty, it's not that you need to get more, it's that you need to give more.
A pet might be a good thing for you, and a few sessions with a therapist might clarify some things for you. You might be depressed, and just looking at things through a distorted filter.
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I'm not sure a pet is a solution. Pets behavior is very much a reflection of their owners.
gentlearts is right, project the positive, be someone you would want to be with.
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In your story, you seems like a wretched man. Maybe you need to do other stuff like sports.
What the F is wrong with you people?! Christ, someone already being depressed, reaching out, and then getting replies like this might just make one wanna kill himself.
I hope the OP is still alive somewhere and getting help for her depression.
Its all about your perspective, You can look at your life as being half full or half empty. Positive thinking brings positive attitudes and outlooks on life, negative thinking brings hopelessness and despair.Its up to you to define your lifes attitude and by the sound of it you need a major attitude adjustment. I'd recommend a few sessions with a life coach.
Its all about your perspective, You can look at your life as being half full or half empty. Positive thinking brings positive attitudes and outlooks on life, negative thinking brings hopelessness and despair.Its up to you to define your lifes attitude and by the sound of it you need a major attitude adjustment. I'd recommend a few sessions with a life coach.
I hear what you are saying, but please understand that once the depression has become severe enough, it is a NEUROLOGICAL event. It is not something that can be cured w a positive attitude. You are blaming the victim.
A "positive attitude" does not fix or cure clinical depression no more than it can fix or cure diabetes.
I've felt that way. It's like there's an endless void inside of you that no one can really ever fill, like you'll always be the one on the outside looking in. How do I deal? Cry. Listen to music. And after a while of convincing myself that I shouldn't, I drink a maker's mark and diet coke. Then I fall asleep watching a TV show that makes me think about something beyond myself.
Yikes, are we not allowed to say this?.....We are meant to have a hole in us....we
are lucky to have a hole in our hearts...why? Because not one thing here lasts...everything is temporary...
so it spurs us on to look for that one thing that can fill that hole...the one thing that will never
leave us...I won't say it bec this is not a spiritual thread...and I'm not a Christian
BibleThumper,,,but I'm not stupid. I have felt all these feelings.
Logically, If you want water you go to the source, a well, a faucet and you hold a glass....if you want to be filled...
go to that 'thing' that can fill you... with an empty cup...ask, seek, research, read, question and
ultimately Be Still...the hunger in you
leads to one place...shhh, but the Fountain of Joy is right within you.
We were taught falsely...that happiness is outside of ourselves.
You will never be truly content looking outside...if you find something that lasts a few decades...it will end...that
is the very Nature of this world, kids.
Hi Vitony
I have been through a lot of hard things, the biggest thing was my husband dying from a heart attack.
I can tell you 2 things that will change your life.
1.Do get a dog! I got one 6 months after my husband died and and she saved my life. I was used to being loved and that was gone. The day I got my dog I was not alone anymore. I was loved.
2.Remember this and live by it. Life is full of good and bad. You can choose to be happy. You can choose what you have in your life , well mostly. You have to orchistrate you life. For instance if you hate standing in line, don't do it. Some times you will still have to stand in line, but you can definitely trim down the amount of time you do. Things you hate or upset you don't do them. You will find if you carry that through all areas of your life you will find some peace. Fill your life with the things that you love.and to quote Gertrude Stein
"It's hard to frown when you have a purring cat in your lap"Hope things go better for you.
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