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I guess at this point it doesn't really matter if he should love you. I mean, I think he should. I'd love my husband no matter how much he weighed and he always tells me the same thing. But you can't make someone love or be attracted to you if they simply aren't. So - how you proceed now is up to you. But nothing that anyone on here says is going to change your husband's mind about how he feels.
I'm so dumb, lol OP is original poster...I'm paranoid. I know she didn't ask specifically for weight loss tips. I was only suggesting things that may help. Isn't that what the point of the thread is?
Nope. The point of the thread is that she doesn't want to lose weight because she likes herself. Which is great. Not so great for her sex life though.
Her husband doesn't like her new look. And she wants support from us even though it will not make a difference for her husband if we agree with her or him.
Maybe OP can compromise & lose half the weight. Her husband can also exercise with her that was they are both making sacrifices for the good of their relationship.
This an unusual situation in that in this case the wife actually likes how she looks heavier. In a lot of the posts we see regarding weight issues, the person knows that they gained weight and are unhappy with it. If the OP is right, she's at the high end of normal weight for her height, not hugely overweight, and she likes what she sees in the mirror. That makes it harder to tell her that she needs to absolutely change--is her self-esteem less important than her sex life? I hope she and her husband can work something out.
Husband asked me not to go below a certain weight. I would prefer too, but respect what he asks (which is hardly anything, ever). I can go to that weight, feel good about myself, and still have enough T&A to keep him occupied.
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To those asking no I haven't been scared off. I've been reading the replies and some of them seem to be bashing my husband for no apparent reason. I just haven't had the chance to reply. I'm about 5'6" tall. Again, I was always the skinny kid in school so when I started gaining weight finally I liked it. I'm not trying to force him to like the new me but I do want him to desire me again. I like the way I look and I don't think I'm overweight at 150 lbs but it just seems that my husband doesn't desire me like he did when I was slimmer.
Oh, good grief. You're not even overweight. You're at the top of your weight range, and I certainly wouldn't gain anymore, but your husband needs to get over it. 100 pounds at your height is emaciated.
Here is what people who are 5'6" 150 pounds tend to look like:
She does care what her husband thinks of her that's the whole point of this thread!.
And no matter if we tell her she is overweight or average, it won't make the husband sleep with her again.
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