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I really don't feel like saving a huge portion of my income for retirement so I want to join the Air Force for a nice pension check and early retirement. I have to get more fit, though, before I can do that. Silly, I know, but it computes for me!
Well, good luck with your weight loss, and I truly mean that.
Thanks! It's going great!
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Originally Posted by Minnesconsinite
Because if you don't lose weight then that means you're ugly and only deserve a rotten man.
Because only good men deserve pretty wives.... right?
(Your words, not mine...... but according to you, they're still "my" issues, huh? LOL!)
MY words? Nowhere did I say:
I was ugly
I deserve a rotten man
Only good men deserve pretty wives
Here's my post again.
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Originally Posted by JustJulia
Several mini-epiphanies converged around the New Year. It had nothing to do with resolutions; I don't do those. In no particular order:
1. I am lucky in that weight comes off pretty easily if I apply myself, but I used that knowledge to become lazy ("I can always get to it tomorrow ..."). Also, I am tall, so a pound or two really doesn't show much on me. I probably gained that much a week. The weight didn't exactly sneak up on me. I saw it coming. I love to cook and bake, and my husband loves me to make things for him, so it was yummy cakes at Christmastime, and big holiday dinners full of good things, and fast food on the weekends when I was out shopping. I knew I shouldn't have had those things, but I told myself I would deal with it later. I decided to start dealing with it.
2. I smoked for a year or two before I was pregnant with my son. When I knew I was pregnant, I quit cold turkey. That was easy. I took it up again a couple years later and then quit again. It was harder that time. My husband had smoked for years and told me every time he quit was harder than the last time. (He quit at the same time I did, and it's been three or four years now.) That's what keeps me from smoking again ... I might not be able to stop next time.
I put that realization toward losing weight. I've lost weight before but have always gone back to my old habits and slowly ended up back where I was before. I was 10 lbs short of where I was before my last big loss (about 30 lbs a couple years ago, which I lost after I quit smoking and started working out). I've lost a little more than 15 pounds since early January.
3. I didn't like how I looked in clothes. Shopping for clothes was depressing. I hated having my picture taken. I used to be photogenic and thought about modeling when I was younger. Now I look frumpy and unhappy in pictures. I am 36. I am too young for my life to be over. I don't want to hate my body for the rest of my life. Now I've lost a few sizes, and I'm starting to like how I look again. I bought some new jeans and think they look good on me.
4. A post on the Relationships board, where I post a lot, said something that really got to me. It was from a man who had been married for 13 years, and his wife was overweight. He really loved his wife and didn't want to leave her, and he continued to be intimate with her despite not finding her attractive anymore. I have been married for 14 years. My husband doesn't complain about me or us, but I realized he might have those thoughts. When we were first married, the guys he worked with complimented him on his beautiful wife. He's a good man. He deserves a beautiful wife.
That last may sound weird or dumb, because I should be doing this for myself. I am, but I'm also doing it for him. And for my kids. I don't want them to develop bad habits, and I want them to be proud of me.
"Frumpy and unhappy" does not mean "ugly." I am not ugly and wasn't even when I was overweight. That's YOUR word, not mine.
Even if I were ugly, why would I deserve a rotten man? Why would an ugly person deserve a rotten spouse? And what does that even mean in MY life? I'm married to a good man. Are you suggesting that I believe I should have divorced him and found a rotten man because YOU equate being fat with being ugly?
MY husband deserves a beautiful wife. Why extrapolate that to mean ONLY good men deserve beautiful wives? That's terrible logic.
More dog poop on the sidewalk. Yeah, you've got some issues.
I went from being a pathetic, 250 lb, fast food and pizza eating, no confidence, depressed, booze hound. Then decided it was lame, and I wanted to be like I was back in college again. On my birthday I just stopped drinking and eating bad and traded it for excersize.
11 months later I am 75 lbs less, eat mostly organics and healthy food, have to watch from being over confident, happy, rarely booze, health nut that runs an average of 10 miles a day after using an elliptical for an hour. I hit a realization that I was leading a horrible life style. Using eastern Philosophy I realized life was in my hands and I am the one responsible for how I lead it.
The whole reason was simple though. THe basic desire of humans. I wanted to be confident and having a healthy sex life again. Other than that, I found out running makes one feel 20 times better than a bar ever could.
I love that you said that!!! I knew what you meant! Don't let it get to ya.
P.S. My motivation to exercise comes from my husband exercising. He has a HOT body, and does it for me. I am honored, and want to look good for him, too. We think each other deserves it. No harm it that! Keep on keeping on!
"He's a good man he deserves a beautiful wife" totally implies that people who are of less looks deserve less and I feel sorry for you.
If you don't want people giving impressions on your opinions, don't post them. My opinion is "dog poop"? Sure.... whatever you say....
You claim you don't have any issues (and I do?) yet you post immature stuff like that.
Best of luck in your weight loss. i'm sure Carnie Wilson and Rob Bonfiglio (who loved her and thought she was beautiful when she was 300 pounds) would wish you well too.
The idea that you would even worry your husband would think less of you for changing physically..... really? He's the kind of person who might really do that? Hmm.........
No matter how good you may look, it won't change your hurtful shallow vulgar personality.
(Merely because I gave my initial gut impression on what you said... and it's my experience on message boards that people only lash out as you have at me when the responder has hit on some truth.)
My epiphany for fitness was to not deprive yourself of food, but replace all the processed "junk" with more nutritious foods. Why eat cookies all the time when you can have fruits and vegetables. Also, when you go to fast food restaurants like McDonalds and Jack in the Box, eat chicken salads more.
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Good one!
