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There's a really good book called The Women's Health Big Book of Exercises by Adam Campbell that came out in 2009. With the same caveats offered above about your surgery, it can answer all of your questions about how much weight, how often, how many reps, how many sets, etc. I checked it out from the library first and then bought it.