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Laughable and pretty indicting compared to what you said about the other guy's pic yesterday.
It's not a great idea to post your pics here unless you know you're good looking..I posted my pic on here once because I was asked to and got only one pity response nobody else said anything the non comments spoke volumes so posting it only confirmed to me I was not attractive and made me feel even worse..
It was kind of like that for me too. Once you hit a certain age, most people will settle down in waves.
It's kind of sad, but most people over 40 I know don't look to date. They fall into a few camps:
1) (Typically men) who are unattractive and have had little success in their life, so don't see the point in putting in so much effort and going through so much rejection to maybe attract someone who might not even be that good of a match.
2) Women who perhaps have lowered their standards somewhat, but the pool has shrunk massively as well, so they typically won't settle for what is left, and decide to stop putting in effort.
3) People who could date and have high value, but prefer to live a social butterfly type lifestyle, while really not dating.
Divorced people don't really count in that.
Number one is me after everything it doesn't mean anything anymore.
It's not a great idea to post your pics here unless you know you're good looking..I posted my pic on here once because I was asked to and got only one pity response nobody else said anything the non comments spoke volumes so posting it only confirmed to me I was not attractive and made me feel even worse..
I want to tell you not to feel bad about that but I know how it feels so just keep ya head up.
It was kind of like that for me too. Once you hit a certain age, most people will settle down in waves.
It's kind of sad, but most people over 40 I know don't look to date. They fall into a few camps:
1) (Typically men) who are unattractive and have had little success in their life, so don't see the point in putting in so much effort and going through so much rejection to maybe attract someone who might not even be that good of a match.
2) Women who perhaps have lowered their standards somewhat, but the pool has shrunk massively as well, so they typically won't settle for what is left, and decide to stop putting in effort.
3) People who could date and have high value, but prefer to live a social butterfly type lifestyle, while really not dating.
Divorced people don't really count in that.
There's actually an active dating scene in the 40's, including all kinds of people, not just "high value" ones. There are people who have been focussed on building their careers, and are just getting into dating. There are people who haven't found anyone yet, and are still trying. There are divorced people, looking to try again. And there are a few widowed people, like our NW Girl, recovering from a loss and wanting to find happiness again. Hope knows no age limits.
It depends on how you see yourself. Some women will find you hot-others won't pay you any mind.
Like my cousin told my other cousin when they got into an argument.
Cousin 1: You think you're so cute. Cousin 2: I sure do, because if I don't, nobody else will think it for me.
She is confident, and doesn't need guys to tell her she's hot. Same for men. Some will get lots of women, but doesn't mean they'll always get them.
So, it's just something you have to think. When you look at yourself, do you see a hot guy?
No definite answer. Someone who is stereotypically hot and gets lots of attention will still have someone who thinks they're nothing special.
There's lots of guys, celebs, who get lots of attention from women, and I don't see the appeal.
And vise-versa. Someone who gets limited attention and who many think is eh will have someone who thinks they're hot.
So, you seem like you may very well be a good-looking fellow, but some women you don't do anything for. Not a bad thing.
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Originally Posted by JBT1980
It's not a great idea to post your pics here unless you know you're good looking..I posted my pic on here once because I was asked to and got only one pity response nobody else said anything the non comments spoke volumes so posting it only confirmed to me I was not attractive and made me feel even worse..
Agreed. I have 1 pic here, but it's in my profile, only friends see. Otherwise, posting pix online is risky because you're bound to have people say every nasty thing about you, or they won't respond, which basically means the same-they had nothing good to say.
I want to tell you not to feel bad about that but I know how it feels so just keep ya head up.
Thanks but I've had confirmation on my lack of attractiveness way before that it was just one of many confirmations throughout the internet and real life..
Even recently I liked a lot of pics late one night on tinder while I was drunk..a girl liked me back but I forgot only had baby pics up so she messages me to show a recent pic and after that She didn't respond again lol
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