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Agreed. Men with no hair on top and goatees on their chin look odd. Hair on top + goatee fine. Bald + clean shaven fine. But don't mix the two as if the guy is King Indecisive
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Originally Posted by Larkspur123
Yes. And if the guy has grey in his beard it can be incredibly aging if he is still a younger guy.
As to OP, yes obvious toupees are a turnoff.
Thanks, I'm glad I'm not alone in my dislike of this. Most women like that look.
Believe it or not the stigma reaches all the way back to the Old Testament: (royalty-free image-no copyright, since it was painted in the 3rd century CE
Here's the story:
So bald guys have been getting a bad rap certainly since the time of Adam & Eve, which is why they'll use anything--fur, hide, even carpet to cover up their bare pate, from which we get the derogatory terms, "rug" and "ear-to-ear carpeting". I've never heard the term "boob-to-boob", unless it's in reference to Jim Carrey and Jeff Daniels in Dumb and Dumber.
I was depressed for a while. I started going bald around 22 and all I did was look in the mirror and find ways to hide it. I did this for a while and it really stressed me out.
So one day, I just shaved my head. I had to work up to it, and it caused me to be stressed out about being seen bald so I wore a hat all the time.
Eventually, I started to get over it and it became a part of me. I got more comfortable with it, and learned to focus on my other positive attributes. I was 6'1", so I hit the gym, got in shape, bought nice clothes, and started carrying myself with confidence. It really had no impact on my social life. I still got plenty of dates. Once in a while you find a women who is pretty shallow, but for the most part I dated some fairly attractive women who didn't care at all about my lack of hair. My personality, goals, dreams etc were their focus....as it would be if I even had hair.
I'm in my 30s now and it's a non factor. I've been shaved for 10 years now, so it's all I've known. Now with that said....if they did come up with a cure that would grow all my hair back, I'd do it. I'd like the option of growing hair in the winter when it's 10 degrees out! Bald heads get cold!
Bravo! good for you, Mike. When nature pulls an asteroid strike on a guy all that's left is to hit the gym and turn himself into a Vin Deisel.
nothing wrong at all with bald head. combover and toupee is what is wrong.
+1. Shaving one's head isn't just for naturally balding guys. My husband wasn't going bald, but he has thin, frizzy hair which is always a big puffball in our humid climate. He looked like a dandelion and because of this, constantly hid his hair under hats. One day he went to take a shower. He was taking a very long time in the bathroom and I could hear the electric razor humming on and off repeatedly. I kept asking him what he was doing and he ignored me. When he emerged, he was completely bald. Gone was the dandelion puff. A sexy head and big smile had replaced it. That was three years ago. He has never had the desire to grow his (full head of) puffy hair back
+1. Shaving one's head isn't just for naturally balding guys. My husband wasn't going bald, but he has thin, frizzy hair which is always a big puffball in our humid climate. He looked like a dandelion and because of this, constantly hid his hair under hats. One day he went to take a shower. He was taking a very long time in the bathroom and I could hear the electric razor humming on and off repeatedly. I kept asking him what he was doing and he ignored me. When he emerged, he was completely bald. Gone was the dandelion puff. A sexy head and big smile had replaced it. That was three years ago. He has never had the desire to grow his (full head of) puffy hair back
OMG -this made me laugh - particularly the bolded line. It sounds like a sentence that belongs in a short story.
ok so.. i loved my hair up 2 bout 21ish i could style it and all ssorts but over the mid 20's, it started to fall out and thin out no more trips to the barbers anymore, girls used to think i was attractive i heard it all the time then when i went out one day i got straight up called ugly from this bird, went out on a date with another girl she asked me to put my hat back on, and heres were the depression sets in, feeling helpless - now its fine saying just shave it, but it doesnt suit everyone and for me i looked worse, so what 2do - i went and got a hairpiece(not cheap), ever seen the smile karl pilkington had when he had one on, mines the same and i 2 now feel comfortable and non depressed with it, but it has its flaws - i kno its fake and thus i feel fake with and although its so glued down with that special walker tape it does sit in your mind what if it comes off what if someone calls you out on it and here comes depression again, i am now looking for a hair transplant although expensive i feel its the only solution
ok so.. i loved my hair up 2 bout 21ish i could style it and all ssorts but over the mid 20's, it started to fall out and thin out no more trips to the barbers anymore, girls used to think i was attractive i heard it all the time then when i went out one day i got straight up called ugly from this bird, went out on a date with another girl she asked me to put my hat back on, and heres were the depression sets in, feeling helpless - now its fine saying just shave it, but it doesnt suit everyone and for me i looked worse, so what 2do - i went and got a hairpiece(not cheap), ever seen the smile karl pilkington had when he had one on, mines the same and i 2 now feel comfortable and non depressed with it, but it has its flaws - i kno its fake and thus i feel fake with and although its so glued down with that special walker tape it does sit in your mind what if it comes off what if someone calls you out on it and here comes depression again, i am now looking for a hair transplant although expensive i feel its the only solution
This is just an aside, and MHO only, but baldness isn't an issue with me. Isn't it hereditary anyway?
The only experience I've had with knowing anyone with a toupee was just out of graduate school in my first job. A colleague's husband had a 'normal' head of hair. I didn't know it was a toupee until I went to her home and he had arrived from work and settled in for the evening. A strange man sat in a chair reading the newspaper. It took me a while to recognize him as my friend's husband. It was an uncomfortable feeling for me for some reason, as if at that moment I lost regard for him. It seemed dishonest. Perhaps because he put forth such a 'macho' facade. From that day, I've never liked toupees.
That said, it isn't my hair/toupee. To each his own. My thought is 'natural is better'.
I remember when an acquaintance shaved his head (maybe due to ensuing baldness, I don't know) and I thought "Wow! Ive never seen a young man bald." Very attractive. I know head shape /facial features has a lot to do with it's success, but it's been working well for countless men in the last at least 20 years.
I do have a female friend and she has a hair loss issue. She got some transplant procedure done, but recently mentioned that it really isn't helping much. I understand it is a very personal, self-esteem issue. Those procedures are very expensive as you've mentioned.
Don't know if I'd be comfortable with the hassle/worry of a toupee. I understand your concern with potential problems with it.
I can't believe some would be so insensitive as to comment on your baldness OR your toupee. It takes all kinds. IMHO, at least you know those individuals for what they are and you can move on.
Good luck.
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