The Majority of People could be attractive if they just put in a little effort.
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My bf and I are going on vacation and I have decided to forgo my technology usuage to focus on us and take a little break. So I won't be posting in this thread/ forum for a while. Addressing some points before I go, I just want to say I don't think I ever mocked or put down people who are overweight/ obese. My only stance related to your size and shape is to make sure you are healthy more then anything.
The reason I put the pictures up was to show people what I meant my styling, too many folks assumed I meant that they must spend their money on designer clothing. Many of the people in the pics are just average day folks who are wearing rather casual clothes and still manage to look nice and put together. I don't know how you can equate encourage others to dress nicer means I am promoting women to become "stepford" wives. My advice also applies to men as well, and I sure as heck don't want to go back to the 1950s. Nor did I say women must wear makeup, I even encouraged women to NOT wear any. I think a lot of young women over do it on the makeup.
I guess the reason I made this thread is because I know a lot people who want to better themselves physically but don't know how. I was hoping this thread would expand on the ideas I was talking about earlier(grooming, styling and being healthy).
I am sorry if you take offense to this thread, I didn't mean it to be like that. On a day to day basis I pay attention to no one but myself and I certainly don't go around like a mean girl glaring at others who I don't approve of. This thread was meant to help be guide for those who do want to change. You shouldn't take the steps to better yourself physically for the sole purpose to attract the opposite sex or increase your chances to appear in Playboy. You should only do this for YOURSELF, I know that's the mindset I had. If your happy with yourself and don't think you need to change, then rock on. This thread is not targeted at you and you can disregard my advice. I thought that since this was the beauty and fashion forum people would have good insight and advice to give.
Anyways I am off to Costa Rica, hope this thread is still going when I get back. Remember, you should never allow yourself to drown in vainity or aspire to look like airbrushed models. Having a healthy amount of motivation and pride in your appearance is not however a bad thing. This is about preserving your natural beauty to its fullest, when you don't eat right, or take yourself you only destroy it.
Thank you so much for your explanation. Sorry if I got defensive. You see, I just think people already have enough on their plates, you know? It seems like people are constantly being bombarded by negativity....they're not good enough, don't look good enough, don't have a nice enough car, don't make enough money, don't raise their kids right, etc.
I appreciate that you were posting as a way of helping other who might WANT help. Thank you and have a wonderful vacation!
It sounds like your perception of the 50s and 60s is based on Hollywood and Internet. Of course I can be dolled up to the T when I do not have a full time job, commute, after school activities with kids, house cleaning, cooking and trying to find a plumber.
This is not true. People coming out of the 1930's and 1940's dressed classy and made a real effort when they went out of the house.
I have pictures of my late grandfather visiting my grandmother's farm, he is wearing a fedora, suit, and a long coat. He is literally trudging through a muddy barnyard in the photo.
I have pictures of my mom's aunt and uncle from the early 1940's, going on a date in front of a car.
Fedora, coat, pretty dress, and women's hat- like straight out of the movies.
These were not beautiful people, but they took pride in the appearance- and this made them beautiful.
They were also not rich people...very working-class, or farmers, COMING OUT OF THE DEPRESSION!
I still have female relatives in their 90's who do their hair, wear pearls, maybe a piece of costume jewelry or a pin.
They look so great...cause that's what was expected in the 40's, 50's, and 60's.
Then they go to the store in our working class town and see the zombies in PJ's
There are some people who are hopeless for looking better. I realize the fat sneaks up on them, but if they really wanted to be slender they could. They are in control of their body, unless illness totally prevents it. I realize some medicines cause an excessive appetite.
When I was growing up, my mother decided what I was to wear when going to school. I can hear her saying, "you must dress as if going to church. That's what is done." When getting older, I was at least 15 before having a pair of jeans and even then they weren't for school. It didn't matter to mother that everyone else wore very casual clothes to school.
The majority of people are lazy these days and are quick to let themselves go. I strongly believe though if everyone put in a good effort in dieting, styling, and grooming most people could be at least average looking. Just look at Europe and Brazil for example, same genetics basically the only difference is they weigh less and dress better therefor look better then the average american. With the amount of european stock most people are mixed with I actually think if people got into shape we could be considered one of the best looking nations in the world. As the russian saying goes,"no such thing as an ugly women only a lazy." This of course also applies to men. What do you think?
What do I think? I think your definition of "ugly" probably fits my definition of "normal/average/plain", and your definition of "attractive" probably fits my definition of "over the top/fussy/made-up".
The majority of people are lazy these days and are quick to let themselves go. I strongly believe though if everyone put in a good effort in dieting, styling, and grooming most people could be at least average looking. Just look at Europe and Brazil for example, same genetics basically the only difference is they weigh less and dress better therefor look better then the average american. With the amount of european stock most people are mixed with I actually think if people got into shape we could be considered one of the best looking nations in the world. As the russian saying goes,"no such thing as an ugly women only a lazy." This of course also applies to men. What do you think?
I agree to some degree, because often people who lose weight look younger than before, and certain haircuts & clothes can have effects on appearances, but different people can have various views of what's "attractive".
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