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That's just so weird to me though. Are you talking about like, wear that as daily wear? I don't know if you're from a fancy place, but I have never in my life seen anyone wear that clothing for anything other than events like weddings.
You have never seen anyone not wear jeans/tshirt/sneakers outside of a wedding?
Jeans are fine to wear, even skinny jeans... even colored skinny jeans. Nothing bedazzled or with glitter though. Most people, regardless of age, wear jeans.
Don't wear sneakers, wear heels. It will add height, which will help as well.
In cooler months wear fitted jackets and cardigans instead of sweatshirts.
And even if you can fit into children clothes, refrain from shopping in the children's department of any store. It might be cheaper, but the cut will make you look like a child as they are not meant for a woman's body. Instead, try to find stores that also have a petite department. The clothes will fit much better.
OP: I was in the same boat at your age, probably a bit worse off because I was also had no meat on my bones. Anyway, piling on make-up and dressing like a middle-age women doesn't always work. Like previous posters suggested, avoid trendy styles (they'll make you look even more youthful); you can still wear the jeans and sneakers style you are comfortable with, but opt for more "modern classics" like Banana Republic-type looks. The key is to look mature and put-together, not necessarily older.
I'm 32 and I wear T-shirt and Jeans, throw in the Chucks, I could pass for a h.s. as an outfit...but there are a lot of older men/women who wears this same outfit. Check out google, A LOT of 'older' women wear just jeans and regular tshirt.
With the make-up advice, you really have to go to those make-up stores to help you out. Someone suggested smokey-eye...I mean, for an everyday look? I think that's a little too much. Someone also didn't approve of the red lipstick, though I see a lot of women pull it off really well...day and night. I don't know how people can give you make-up advice when they have never seen you or even know how you dress on a regular basis or what's your lifestyle. Heels? I see h.s. kids on heels, walking on it better than I can, but they still look young.
I think to look "older", you just have to act/speak like one. I remember the first time I met my friend's little sister, I thought she's in h.s. already, but she was only in gr. 7 at the time. The way she talked was very confident and outgoing. If she told you she's senior h.s., you'd believe it. How to act like an adult? Pay attention to the crowd you're in, look at someone who you think or come off as older, then see what it is about them/their actions that makes you think they are...try to copy that.
I suggest Pinterest. Look at your fave celebrities and copy how they dress. Or, even look at celebrities that are similar to your body figure, copy that. Well, if their outfit looks grown up lol.
When I was looking super young I avoided stuff like hoodies and backpacks. They just make you look younger. If you wear jeans, wear classic ones try ballet flats instead of sneakers. A blouse instead of a t-shirt. cardigan instead of a hoodie. And a structured "plain" purse vs let's say that free bag you got from the grocery store. If you wear sneakers make sure they are sleek and clean if they are part of your outfit and you aren't going to the gym.
There are a bunch of little signals that say adult. You are also only 20, and I assume you are spending time with mostly your peer group.
Now that I am in my late 30s, I look old enough to wear the trends and still look like an adult, though I am generally perceived as in my 20s vs 30s. I am not getting carded so often anymore. I never got much into wearing much makeup, my mom never did so I didn't really have any makeup role models. I occasionally put on a little, but I can't give you tips on how to look older with makeup.
I just to be the same way....people would exclaim, "You look soooo young!!"...even when I was in my 50s and then in my 60s.....ah, but wait for the Golden 70s...you'll look old.
When we reach those so-called golden years, every year makes a huge difference in our aging and how we look. It's nothing like going from 20-30, 30-40, etc.
And I accept that the OP didn't want any comments about 'wait until you're old', but trust me on this: the decades do fly by, no doubt about it.
I don't know how people can give you make-up advice when they have never seen you or even know how you dress on a regular basis or what's your lifestyle.
Because the white eyeshadow, too much black eyeliner and bright red lipstick is what my 14 year old does when she's trying to look older. I know neutral colors will look better on almost any face and won't look as much like a little girl playing dress up.
Because the white eyeshadow, too much black eyeliner and bright red lipstick is what my 14 year old does when she's trying to look older. I know neutral colors will look better on almost any face and won't look as much like a little girl playing dress up.
I agree on the white eye shadow, that is a no go
But a lot of ladies look amazing with black eyeliner and red lipstick...yes, even bright lipstick. Red lipstick on black (winged or not) eyeliner is a classic look that is back on trend. I personally can't pull it off, but I've seen some of the ladies that I know and they look very woman-like and put together.
Again, I don't know how she applied her make-up, so I can't really say if it's a yay or nay and I can't imagine how anyone can say otherwise. Except ok, yes, not the white eye shadow lol
This is much better than the first poster (no offense to first poster).
And, yeah, I think my makeup could use an update. I've been doing it the same forever. I'm in the process of losing weight, so I can accent my figure and wear skirts after that. Fifteen pounds gone, about 30 more to go.
As for the deeper voice part--- I'm pretty sure that's not happening.
What I meant is that sometimes women pitch their voices high, sometimes so high they sound like toy dolls. If you think that is you, try to find a comfortable, lower pitch that seems natural. I am not recommending using a basso voice. You might speak into a recorder to hear what your voice sounds like.
This is just a suggestion though. Use your discretion, as I am sure you will.
Congrats on the weight loss. Good for you.
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