Convince Husband That Coffee isn't Bad?? (beer, healthier, eating, great)

[TabulaRasa]

I really don't think I could live with somebody who makes an active effort to control my food or drink intake.

[Naturen]

I would ask him for credible references to support his stance. In the meantime, I would find credible references to the contrary.

[TotallyTam]

Originally Posted by ohhwanderlust

No, I only have a Red Bull with breakfast, and no more caffeine after that. Even if I have to wrestle the can of Red Bull right out his hands, I drink it. I don't want to sneak around with it, because I prefer complete honesty, but I want him to chill out and not worry so much.

Oh--well ok then.... but it's just that your original post mentioned the canned drink, then coffee, coffee on Sundays, etc. But hey---there is such a thing as too much caffeine. But the real issue is what I and many others have already mentioned--the control issue with your hubby. What are you going to do about that?

[CaliforniaGal1]

With each post, I am looking at where people are located.

The OP's location really surprised me. I assumed she was from the South


And the replies here....people you are not answering the OP in the stereotypical way per your location

[ohhwanderlust]

Originally Posted by CaliforniaGal1

With each post, I am looking at where people are located.

The OP's location really surprised me. I assumed she was from the South


And the replies here....people you are not answering the OP in the stereotypical way per your location

ha. He's a New Yorker, but he would fit in perfectly in the South/Midwest.

[apexgds]

Originally Posted by mainebrokerman

would you say the same if hubby is asking her to eliminate meat from her diet???

He's not "asking" ... he's demanding. Big difference.

[ohhwanderlust]

Yeah. I'm drinking my Red Bull as I write this. I told him that attempting to dictate my diet is controlling behavior, as agreed by most people in this decade. Even his friends have told him to ease up a bit.

His response is that no one truly cares about me like he does.

He wasn't like this at all before we married.

[yellowsnow]

Huge red flag. "He wasn't like this at all before we married."

It's not your H's place to police you and decide what is or isn't 'allowed'. And you need to stand up on your own 2 feet and refuse to be a doormat.

Controlling behavior usually escalates over time. Stop it now! Today it's your caffeine intake. What will it be tomorrow?

And forget the caffeine. That's not really the issue.

[Chaofan]

Originally Posted by ohhwanderlust

Yeah. I'm drinking my Red Bull as I write this. I told him that attempting to dictate my diet is controlling behavior, as agreed by most people in this decade. Even his friends have told him to ease up a bit.

His response is that no one truly cares about me like he does.

He wasn't like this at all before we married.

Please do some research on controlling/abusive behavior. The bolded is often an early indicator.

[PeachSalsa]

Oooh HUGE HUGE red flags here.

He "cares about you so much" that he won't "allow" caffeine. Next he may not "allow" a certain food. Pretty soon, he won't "allow" you to see certain friends because he feels they are bad influences on you. Then he won't "allow" you to go on City Data because we are bad influences on you. Soon your family are "bad". Then it's just you and your hubby.

This screams as the beginning of an isolating, abusive relationship.

Nip this in the bud RIGHT NOW. Tell him you are a grown adult and you get to decide what you drink, whether it's coffee, a caffeinated canned beverage, or whatever. If he does not want to drink it himself, fine! You are not forcing him to drink it, and therefore, neither should he force you to eliminate it.