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I agree that you just need to give it some more time. I've been gone going on 2 years now and going home is hard. I miss my family and friends a lot. The last time I went home I cried the whole way back to Colorado. It's hard missing everyone and not knowing when I'll see them again. I felt bummed out for about a week after I got back, but now I feel fine again and I remember the reasons why I left and the ways in which my life are better here than there. Enjoy your vacations home, appreciate the good things about your new city, and know that if as time goes by you really want to go back then you always can.
You are enjoying it because you are on vacation. I love going up to Montana to visit family and friends. However, I always remember that I am on vacation. I have not forgotten the low wages and high cost of living in Montana that brought me down to Wyoming. Just think of why you left and you will feel better.
no if anything it made me realize i need to stay where i am. i moved from philadelphia to minnesota. and yes it was great having that family structure. everyone being so close. but if i stayed, id also be unemployed, broke and fat. i had a blast in philly. going out, eating all that good food. but i have a daughter now and i need to be more grounded. so us living in minnesota is not only good for me, but good for her as well. if i could just live here in minnesota and visit on all the holidays. that would be the perfect situation
I haven't felt that way going back....if anything we feel like we are fleeing every time we leave again - can't get away fast enough!
I agree that you should go back in January. I have a friend who used to live in New England, she only visits in the summer when it's 100* down here and it's always 78 and no humidity up there. Her DH travels up there all the time for business and he always says to her "I'll bring you up here in January, see what you think then!".
vanilla,
You haven't really given your new state of Texas much of a chance.
Only 2 months?
Give it at least a year.
It's normal to feel a little homesick i guess, to see the familiar,
especially when you are still adjusting to your new home.
You will feel better in time, and you should try to make new
friends, which I know is very hard. Try your best, and you will feel
better with people you know at your new home.
........the lack of diversity compared to here (not many Filipinos and it's hard to find certain grocery items) and also the lack of my favorite restaurants (have yet to find many places we would consider good enough to frequent).
Here is a link to a discussion about Filipino food in Dallas.
I went back to visit for Thanksgiving a few months after I moved. I was really looking forward to it. But as soon as we got the train station I started to worry about my house, and pets and missed it and them. I loved the train ride, but had gotten a hat with a Olkahoma state symbol on it to wear off the train which I wore on the train.
It was wierd, going back to socal but away from where I'd lived and staying with relatives. I took a busride through where I'd lived and it was sooo strange, but it was like there was a barrier there. I could see it and all, but I was past there. I'd let go. The pictures I saw had to do with all the reasons I left, but they couldn't come back through.
When I was out there I started calling the new home 'home'. I haven't been back, partly for money reasons, but because too, there were places there which were special, and I know they've changed. But if I leave the old photo in my mind I can keep the memory closer. To see them again would make them like the rest.
Maybe it happened faster with me, but unless its vital I don't really mind not ever going back. Relatives have moved here so I see family when they come and visit now.
Well, I believe in living all over the country. However, there's a curse to Las Vegas . . . once you're here, then move, you end up back in this place like Ground Hog day! I have moved here off and on for 25 years. Every time I leave, I can't wait to get out of here. Then when I leave, I can't wait to get back here! This has happened to several LV residents. Now, I want to move to Minnesota and I have no idea why. I want to live in thee extreme cold because I'm in the extreme heat, but knowing I will hate Minnesota, I don't know what to do. However, there are better opportunities in the frozen tundra than the desert. When you leave a place, you can't wait to get the hell out, but when you get there, well . . . you know what they say about grass . . .
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