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If your mum says she's going to support you for a year, why not try and make the best of it? I'm not saying to go out every night, or sit on the couch playing video games, but explore a culture that you haven't been in for a long time. You have roughly 6 months left of being there for a year for your mother's sake, why not try and make the best of it?
Your current attitude *might* be contributing to your lack of employment; you might be not bringing your best foot forward in interviews. Of course, I don't know what your skill level/ job market is.
Like willow wind asked, what are your long terms goals? How can you work towards them in the next 6 months?
Does she say that because she's worked in corporate and sees potential in you?
If so, do that and suck it up for a year. You may find you're in better shape there than you would be in the US.
If not, go to school.
But stay for at least a year. The US is on the edge of a major economic downturn, so stick it out for now. You may find that you are much better off there, even with the culture shock.
No she did estate agency for a couple of years and gave that up, other than that she has never worked. I just feel my heart is not here.
If your mum says she's going to support you for a year, why not try and make the best of it? I'm not saying to go out every night, or sit on the couch playing video games, but explore a culture that you haven't been in for a long time. You have roughly 6 months left of being there for a year for your mother's sake, why not try and make the best of it?
Your current attitude *might* be contributing to your lack of employment; you might be not bringing your best foot forward in interviews. Of course, I don't know what your skill level/ job market is.
Like willow wind asked, what are your long terms goals? How can you work towards them in the next 6 months?
I see your point, and you are probably right, Its different over here you need a qualification for everything, I really want to study nutrition, but here I have to start fro scratch, take entry level tests. It would be easier in NY. my heart is in America. I'm living in a tiny town and there really is nothing to explore. I am signed up for a gym and taking courses to get higher levels of education.. Thank you for your advice
Thank you for your advice... I do care about her happiness, I know that if I leave she will never let it go. I don't want to ruin our relationship or feel guilty. I want t go back to school and she doesn't agree with that either. she thinks I should get a job in corporate. She will say do what you want but then say why it's not a good idea. I don't really know how to approach it. I want to prove to her that I can do it.
Why would you feel guilty? She's an adult, not a pet or a dependent child. She needs to deal with her life, and you need to live your life for you. You don't live your life for someone else, you live it for you.
Why would you feel guilty? She's an adult, not a pet or a dependent child. She needs to deal with her life, and you need to live your life for you. You don't live your life for someone else, you live it for you.
You might approach your mother in this way: tell her that you want only her happiness, and you're sure that she wants only your happiness. If you're unhappy, chances are you will be unhappy in 6 months.
You might approach your mother in this way: tell her that you want only her happiness, and you're sure that she wants only your happiness. If you're unhappy, chances are you will be unhappy in 6 months.
I agree with what you are saying completely and I honestly don't wan to waste time.
I moved back to England about 5 months ago. I was born here but have lived in Florida/ NYC since I was eight so I am American pretty much. I haven't been able to settle into a job I like or settle in anywhere at all. I live with my parents at the moment which is difficult because I'm used to having my own place. Even though I am living with them it just doesn't feel like home to me. I have been missing New York and really want to go back. The problem is that my mum said she would be disappointed if I didn't give it a year, but I feel I am sticking it out for her and I hate it. What should I do? Should I give it a year?
Where in the uk are you based? Like anything I'd stick something out BUT if your homesick I'd go back.
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Originally Posted by cindersslipper
England sucks, I can imagine why you are in such culture shock.
Where in the uk are you based? Like anything I'd stick something out BUT if your homesick I'd go back.
In what way?
I'm in somerset right now, but for the first two months I was in London
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