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Think of it in the positive as an adventure. I have moved over 20 times all over the west coast and overseas.
Would your employer maybe provide you with a sponsor to help you around when you first arrive? Would your employer let you have a pre-move trip before the actual move to find an apartment/house? And once you arrive, would your employer give you a few days to get your affairs in order (e.g., register your car, open a bank account, start utilities, get the kids in school, etc.).
Put together a file with all your important papers (e.g., kids' immunization and school records, passports, proof of insurance, birth certificates, recent utility bills, etc.).
When you move to a new place, watch and learn. Be friendly, but cautious. And avoid talking about sex, religion, and politics when you first arrive (topics which are inappropriate for the work place environment anyway).
Folks kind of mind their own business, so having little social skills would probably not be a show stopper.
Moving by oneself, or moving a family, are certainly quite different.
I have no idea how to evaluate this, so i'm throwing it out there.
We first have no clue where we're moving, except know it's happening, and probably SE or SW. Depends where employment will be.
We're not Americans. We live in Canada. 2 kids. And the woman has very little social skills.
How screwed am I?
More info?
Are you moving with an employer, or are you just tossing out resumes/applications and heading out to wherever you get the first acceptance?
How old are the kids? Old enough for daycare or school? Are you worried about them fitting in?
How are your own social skills, do you make friends easily? Will you be inviting people to your home and know how to make them feel comfortable, and know how to make your wife(?) comfortable with that?
I moved with my company, 700 miles away from everyone and everything familiar. It was fine, but I don't require much in the way of socialization, and I'm pretty good at researching and exploring things on my own.
How 'screwed' you are depends on your expectations and how competent you are at meeting them.
More info?
Are you moving with an employer, or are you just tossing out resumes/applications and heading out to wherever you get the first acceptance?
How old are the kids? Old enough for daycare or school? Are you worried about them fitting in?
How are your own social skills, do you make friends easily? Will you be inviting people to your home and know how to make them feel comfortable, and know how to make your wife(?) comfortable with that?
I moved with my company, 700 miles away from everyone and everything familiar. It was fine, but I don't require much in the way of socialization, and I'm pretty good at researching and exploring things on my own.
How 'screwed' you are depends on your expectations and how competent you are at meeting them.
Moving with the first good option employment.
Kids are quite young. That's not a main issue.
I am quite good socially. It is my wife who in years living in her own entourage, never managed to build one relationship or invite anyone. I'm always the drive for that, and it eventually fails coz usually women build those bridges.... .
I have moved huge places by myself, no issues there. But in a family... hence my OP..
I don't know how we'll make it with others, if in her own milieu she sucks at building relationships, what's gonna happen in a strange land to her.
I am quite good socially. It is my wife who in years living in her own entourage, never managed to build one relationship or invite anyone. I'm always the drive for that, and it eventually fails coz usually women build those bridges.... .
I have moved huge places by myself, no issues there. But in a family... hence my OP..
I don't know how we'll make it with others, if in her own milieu she sucks at building relationships, what's gonna happen in a strange land to her.
By any chance are you projecting your own need onto your wife? Does it matter to HER that she doesn't have much outside social contact? Why can't you be the relationship builder?
Also once your kids begin a daycare or school program your wife will have ample opportunity to meet other parents and there will already be something of a common bond in place to help her foster new relationships if she so desires. Some people don't desire. I never could make my ex husband understand that my lack of a social circle was a much bigger problem in his eyes than it ever was in mine.
I am quite good socially. It is my wife who in years living in her own entourage, never managed to build one relationship or invite anyone. I'm always the drive for that, and it eventually fails coz usually women build those bridges.... .
I have moved huge places by myself, no issues there. But in a family... hence my OP..
I don't know how we'll make it with others, if in her own milieu she sucks at building relationships, what's gonna happen in a strange land to her.
You know that men can get involved in school and extracurricular activities as well too right?
Volunteer to coach a team or join a scout troop. Volunteer at your kids' schools. Endless opportunities there. Communities are always looking for men and women to get involved, and most activities take place after work hours now.
Moving by oneself, or moving a family, are certainly quite different.
I have no idea how to evaluate this, so i'm throwing it out there.
We first have no clue where we're moving, except know it's happening, and probably SE or SW. Depends where employment will be.
We're not Americans. We live in Canada. 2 kids. And the woman has very little social skills.
How screwed am I?
You don't know where you're moving? How the hell does that work?!
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