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Problem is EVERYONE is moving to NC and SC. It is so crowded and, we found, because we went looking around down there, filled with (sorry) obnoxious New England people. Really. And the Florida half backs who can't stand heat in the summer (imagine)
If you're going to move down there, try to be nice to the locals.
We moved from the west coast to the east coast knowing NO ONE here and haven't regretted it for one minute.
Couldn't rep you again so here it is.
I was looking in a particular area and have stopped, due to so many northerners heading there. Most important thing is not to move to a place and expect it to change to you. People moving from urban to rural often express shock and surprise at no sidewalks, no trash pickup, no streetlights and then clamor for these things. Don't.
I read a post from a guy who moved from CT to FL, and immediately got on the board of his HOA so he could "show them how it's done". Don't be that guy.
Moving away from family? I don't have kids, but I can tell you thought of moving away from siblings doesn't bother me. Moving away from parents apparently does, even though we don't see each other often.
Thanks!! I will certainly be nice to the locals and do not plan on bringing any northern opinions with me. CT is certainly not a state I really agree with anything on.
I'm moving from a similar suburb here to one there. Not changing from city to country or vice versa. So it shouldn't be too much of a shock. I've visited Sc many times since we do have tiny bit of family there.
I do realize lots of people are moving South, likely for many of the same reasons I am. So I have no problem being in an area that has growth to it.
I've replied to this type of scenario many times. In short, be careful of moving to a very different region, with a very different culture. I/we found it to be very unsettling and even annoying. People think, act, react, very differently, to where you can feel like an alien or stranger in a strange land.
Sometimes, all the focus on politics and/or expenses can take your focus on cultural differences, which run much deeper. We ended up moving back to where we were from, despite the original complaints, which became of lesser significance.
I had the opposite experience. I grew up in the DC area and moved to the west coast when I was 30. I didn't realize until I moved that half the reason I was often so depressed in MD is that I just don't like it there. I felt "like an alien or stranger in a strange land." And it's not even something I can articulate - the place just never suited me. When I've gone back to visit friends and family, I can't wait to leave. There's nothing WRONG with it; it's just not "me." When I moved to the West Coast, everything about it just felt "right." It's been 32 years and I've never regretted taking the plunge.
Thanks!! I will certainly be nice to the locals and do not plan on bringing any northern opinions with me. CT is certainly not a state I really agree with anything on.
I'm moving from a similar suburb here to one there. Not changing from city to country or vice versa. So it shouldn't be too much of a shock. I've visited Sc many times since we do have tiny bit of family there.
I do realize lots of people are moving South, likely for many of the same reasons I am. So I have no problem being in an area that has growth to it.
Thanks for all this input, it's great.
haha I have the same feelings about CT most of the time It should help that you know the area.
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I wouldn't move further than 4 hrs from family.
I have "days drive" in my head - so that's 10 hours give or take. I can drive longer but don't enjoy driving at night that much anymore so I try to think about winter daylight.
I moved 6,000 miles from Ca to the Provence region in the South of France. I just got back after visiting my family ( mom dad, twin brother) in Nevada and Arizona.
I moved 6,000 miles from Ca to the Provence region in the South of France. I just got back after visiting my family ( mom dad, twin brother) in Nevada and Arizona.
I have a friend who recently announced she is moving to France. Maybe France is the new SC.
You only live once. May as well live somewhere where you will have an easier, less expensive life. Your family will adjust to you moving away even though it may be rough at first.
We are from CT, both myself and my husband have lived here all our lives. Our families live here or within a hour or two drive from us. We have 3 kids and are considering moving South Carolina. ( I should say we do have one set of parents down there, though where we are looking we'd still be 4 hrs away)
We do not have to move. However, my dh works remotely so he can keep his job and work from anywhere and I only work part time, which I can likely duplicate anywhere as well.
Our oldest is going off to college, so we will have one teen and a grade schooler left at home.
Here is our thought process: CT is getting increasingly more expensive, taxes are outrageous and our home is worth more then it likely will ever be if we sell soon. We also do not identify with most of the politics in CT and feel as though now is the time for something new. Our kids are on board as we've discussed this with them. BUT, my only hesitation is worrying if I will regret it. We see our families on birthdays and holidays mostly. Some of them we will see just because. I've never lived away from family but want to push myself to .ale friends and fit in more with the people around me. I don't even have any close friends and have lived here forever. I'm assuming we will come back to visit once a year at Christmas.
I was born in CT and always stayed because family was here and I don't want my kids to stay and feel the same way I do. I'd rather set them up in a state that's more affordable and if I do it now I think they will see it as their home and not CT. I could wait until they all leave the house and retire down there but then they may be settled in CT with their families and not want to leave. So then I'd be moving away from them (which would be much harder then moving away from siblings etc).
Have you made a long distance move with kids? Was it worth it? Did it feel like home? I'm struggling with this decision but need to make one soon.
I don't have kids and have not moved with kids, but:
1. South Carolina has low taxes and relatively low housing prices. But housing prices are not dirt-cheap. So it'll be cheaper than Connecticut, but it's not "nothing".
2. Unless you live in the Charlotte suburbs, the South Carolina-Connecticut trip will require a connection and some driving or other transportation in the ground. Charlotte-LaGuardia is a very, very heavily traveled route, with lots of quick flights, but if you'll be traveling from another airport in SC, it'll take longer.
3. South Carolina is more conservative politically, although it's certainly not a Democrat-free zone or anything; particularly in Greenville (city, not county), Columbia and Charleston, there are a good number of Democrats.
4. South Carolina is HOT. Greenville, not so much, but Columbia and especially the coast are boiling hot in the summer.
Have you considered New Hampshire? It has plenty of conservative people in it (but not as many Christians per capita as SC) and is close, and not HOT.
PS: South Carolina is VERY friendly. People will force themselves on you and become your friend, whether you want it or not. And prepare to be hugged.
Yes, I've noticed that we would need connector flights in most cases to visit back home. It's certainly annoying, but not enough to hold me back from going.
I am mostly leaning towards Greenville suburbs!!
I'm more then happy with a conservative place, so no worries there.
I have not considered New Hampshire, mostly because we hate the cold and the snow...one small reason we want to leave!
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It should help that you know the area.
