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In earlier times, men riding on crowded buses, trains, etc. were expected to give up their seats to ladies. A man who was seated while ladies were standing would be considered ill-mannered and not a proper gentlemen. And I would imagine that a woman who refused the offer would be considered brash and not a proper lady.
But social norms change, and certainly gender roles in the U.S. have undergone significant changes in recent times. So now we have the situation where some men will remain seated, unashamed, while the women standing over them glower at them in sullen annoyance. Meanwhile, elsewhere on the vehicle, a man will rise to offer his seat, only to find that the woman standing nearby refuses to take it.
So what do you feel is the proper etiquette? I'm not talking about offering seats to the elderly, or handicapped, or pregnant women, or someone burdened with packages. What I'm asking is, should an able-bodied, unencumbered man offer his seat to an able-bodied, unencumbered woman? And if so, should she take it?
The answer is NO! Women want to equality! This is equality!
...I offer my seat to older women or women with small children. Younger women find that patronizing. If I even address a woman as "ma'am" (like I was raised to) they are offended.
People who find manners "patronizing" are essentially saying they are not amenable to being treated with respect... which is really a contradiction.
I would only give up my seat to someone who was having a hard time standing due to a disability that wasn't their choice. I wouldn't give up my seat to someone who is pregnant or obese because those are their own choices.
No, of course not. There's no reason to. Having a vagina in no way whatsoever entitles a person to a seat nor impairs their ability to stand. I will however offer my seat to someone who is obviously physically having difficulties, or to the elderly. That is having manners. Manners extend to everyone and do not vary by sex. Chivalry, a sexist custom, is nearly dead. This is a good thing. It needs to be buried six feet under to exist only in history books.
I don't think it's a big deal, just a nice thing to do. I give up seats for older people regardless of sex...it's just a gesture of kindness, do it or don't.
I'm a woman and I've offered my seat to a prego and/or elderly person.
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