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I've got nothing against porn in general as long as the participants in it are doing it of their own free will and are being compensated for their work. But once porn went online it became so ubiquitous it's now a daily part of many people's (read men, since it's mostly men) lives. And that has been proven to have negative ramifications on their real interactions with human partners.
Here are a couple of articles describing why that is and how it's a negative:
I think that's where the issue lies. The 24/7 availability of free porn, of any variety, literally at one's fingertips, can make it problematic. Watching porn isn't "bad" per se, but it's like anything else(alcohol, gambling, etc.); it has to be engaged responsibly. If young men indulge in their sexual fantasies every day through porn, it's going to be very difficult to interact with real women.
Porn, by it's very nature, dehumanizes both men and women. In some ways, much like prostitution, that's the whole point. Real human relationships include emotions and require work. Porn demands neither.
I do not watch porn, since it doesn't have anything appealing to offer -to me anyway- If you watch porn, I think is perfectly fine for you, no right or wrong. As long as there are no minors, animals or adults -people in general- being forced to do it and be filmed, I have no problems with porn and the porn industry.
What it comes down to that one of the most effective social controls on men being men is to limit their access to sex to those being good and socially productive. With prostitution offering sex to any with money and porn offering some sort of sexual release with the only cost being having your phone and computer possibly infected we lose a social control tool.
Good or bad we don't want a society that has the power to abolish it. Even attempts to crush the ability of people to film themselves having sex are doomed to failure with everybody carrying a movie camera capable phone on them 24/7. We would only be able to stop the above the board payments to those signing releases for their image to be used as a masturbation tool and we will still have the Kim Kardashians of the world who will claim their porn was a private tape for personal use.
Me, and I presume, most 20-ish year old gringo boys spend all day watching internet porn, which offers just about anything you could ever consider tantalizing. But I'm retired and have nothing else to do all day. As for the young gringo boys? I'd cut their internet off, take away their phones, and make them go out and get a job. Business ALWAYS before pleasure.
I think it is unfortunate that most young men get their early education about sex and what to expect from their partners from porn. It's just so unrealistic. The expectations now for young women .... from how to prepare their bodies in a way to look like porn stars to what they need to do to "satisfy" .... is kind of crazy, when you think about it.
My wife & I love documentaries we watch them more then anything else. My wife & I also watch porn together mind you. Yes, we are one of those couples. The other week we watched the two documentaries below.
Every so often we hear or watch something where porn should be banned all together. Some believe that it dehumanizes women & so women become sex objects & they are abused & so on & so forth. There has always been an argument against porn but not a lot for it. There is an argument that women who get into porn have been sexually abused. I think people forget that men do porn as well, and many might say that men are not affected by having sex with beautiful women, that it's only demeaning to women. That porn isn't realistic but neither are books, movies about love, romance, etc.
Now if you will excuse me I have to go buy more hand lotion.
I never understood the dehumanization argument - it would also imply that watching documentaries about slavery is dehumanizing, right? And besides, what's the alternative - rape, street prostitution, etc.? I don't think it makes sense to take something down for being dehumanizing and replace it with something even more dehumanizing.
I never understood the dehumanization argument - it would also imply that watching documentaries about slavery is dehumanizing, right? And besides, what's the alternative - rape, street prostitution, etc.? I don't think it makes sense to take something down for being dehumanizing and replace it with something even more dehumanizing.
Ummm... street hooking and rape already happen all the time
As far as porn go, I don't really care either way. I mean it was fun in the day to get dads playboy collection and all and stare but it gets old after awhile.
Men in general need visual stimulation, this is well researched and documented. Women will never "get" porn. Their brains (in general) dont work like mens.
I dont want to live in a society that thinks you should take things away simply because you dont like it. I dont like religion but I dont believe in taking it away from people. However most religious people I talk to want to take porn away from people.
But once porn went online it became so ubiquitous it's now a daily part of many people's (read men, since it's mostly men) lives. And that has been proven to have negative ramifications on their real interactions with human partners.
Here are a couple of articles describing why that is and how it's a negative:
Fact remains without the availability of personal outlets for sexual energy such as porn and the sex industry, some men would engaged in far more dangerous activities to society. It is common knowledge, many police departments overlook or pay a blind eye to massage parlors and brothels. Only ever taking action to close these establishments when prompted to do so by court order. One can only shudder to think of the increase in domestic violence, rape, sexual assault and more if there was a ban on porn and active prohibition of the sex industry in many cities.
It would be nice to think all men and women go home , make dinner cuddle and then have rip roaring sex night after night, smile together and kiss good night. In reality , relationships get old, sex gets old, people get bored , then comes the breakup.
Some incorrectly see porn as the culprit. The blow to a woman's ego as she see now sees her husband or bf looking more and more at porn can never be underestimated. She is presented with the reality of partners lack of sexual satisfaction and can respond in a number of ways most often directly related to her own capacity for dealing with problems as they are presented to her.
1. Fly off the handle , call her friends more to complain and shed a tear. Next, her feelings become so inflamed, she sees it as a sign of ingratitude her own husband or bf would belittle her by watching porn when he has a perfectly healthy female before him. At this point, this is a relationship going on the rocks. The man will most certainly not have a good happy feeling making love to her anymore. The flame is now put out and the passion between the two parties is a thing of the past.
2. The more clever approach. Admit to herself he is a man and men will always look at porn. Those that don't are similar to the contests to see who can hold their breath the longest. Eventually and always the participants will go back to breathing. Now, the woman could do some research and see what type of porn her partner is watching. If he is watching porn and porn performers not similar in any shape or color to herself, then she would need to ask herself if the sexual component of their relationship is even there at all. If say, she is blonde and she notices most of the porn he watches involves blonde women, then she could identify what type of dress or hairstyle that turns him on. How about just be playful and ask to see some porn together. Talk about it and see what really turns her man on. She might be very pleased and experience new sexual satisfaction if she learns to work with her man and not against him.
Porn is not perfect in the slightest. What it does offer is some genuine insight into the sexual preferences and desires of all that watch it. Much of this information can be real feedback into the state of a current relationship and solutions can even be suggested for those facing problems on an intimacy level. Sadly, for some it may even paint a very candid picture of sexual preferences and tendencies which may not be acceptable. From there , it is time to use the wisdom gained and move on.
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The other week we watched the two documentaries below. 
