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Do you think all the publicity around the concept of "women being called as/or looking hot", "What do you think of the constant barrage of sexual focus of being "hot" as being the best/worst presentation for women", "or do you think the public, media and social push of a women as a commodity affects the ability of women to build relationships"?, How do you feel of "women being promoted as if sex is her power position"?, "or Do you think women are affected by the push of women and sex as being and giving her some fiction of power to rely upon"?. Do you think any or all these and other exhibition styles of sexual promotions, has made a big impact in the average lives of women?
Do you think it has any impact on the ability of women to choose a mate?
Do you think it has any impact on her ability to stick with a relationship?
Do you think the concept of being "hot" makes a woman a better persons?
Do you think the concept of being "hot" makes her less likely to maintain a stable relationship"
Do you think the promotions as if she is the main chooser of relationships is a good idea, or Do you think relationships should happen by mutual choice?
Do you think all the publicity to promote female homosexuality impacts women's choices?
Do you like women who wear very revealing cloths as being a mate choice?
Do you think women should emphasis skin and body part exposure above skill and talent?
Do you think any of these depictions affect your ability to trust women?
How do you think Men's attitudes about these things affect his ability to choose a mate?
How do you think men attitude of thinking he has a have a woman considered "hot" affects his commitment ability?
Do you think men over rate the sensuality and sincerity of a woman, by the label of her being considered "hot"?
How do you feel about the thought a man must have money to build a relations with a woman labeled by society as being "hot"?
I can't figure out what we're debating based on the OP. It's like they just threw a few dozen random statements at the wall to see what sticks. But there does seem to be one overriding theme, so let's try that.
By "hot" I assume you mean "attractive". This is more inclusive than just being "pretty" because it includes aspects of personality, demeanor, and intelligence in addition to pure looks.
There is no question that attractive people, men and women, have huge advantages in all aspects of live. Study after study proves this. In addition, women are judged more on appearance than men are, so the advantages of being an attractive woman are magnified.
Everyone should use every advantage they have to succeed in life. If someone is attractive, then of course they should use that advantage. Whether the attractiveness is used to choose a better mate, or to get ahead in a job, an advantage is an advantage.
It was a list of random question, but the theme inquiry is "do you think it impacts the way relationship function" ?
Do you think it has much to do about "sticking power to work things out", or because options are plentiful, do you think people who fit these categories as you've respectfully laid out, will be more inclined to work hard at relationships or walk away and pursue another available option more readily?
Do you think people are more or less trusting of those who fit these imagery concepts? ( I understand relationships have to be built to function), but do you think the trust issues are greater or lesser for those who may choose or want to choose to be in relations to people who "fit these imagery concepts".
For some women Sex appeal is their power position.
I think how pretty a woman is directly impacts her relationships. Think about the hot girl in High School, she always had guys after her and the nerds dreaming. Fast forward to when she is in her mid 20's and the fast talking, hip, bad boy that she married out of school is losing his lustre and they are heading for a divorce.
A hot woman is so lusted after that it might be the only thing she knows and usually the type that chases her is only in it to get you know what and they will lie lie lie to get a chance to lay lay lay.
It is like a stereotype to see the pretty woman dating a total jerk. There does come a time when she smartens up but usually the guy is after one thing.
An average looking woman still has suitors but she can be more selective and take a bit more time to develop relationships because the average guy can actually approach her.
Your own experience may differ but when it comes down to it a pretty woman is going to have a harder time finding a good guy that is looking for more than a quick time with her.
I knew a unmarried woman in her 40's that lived in NYC, she had a high paying job and looked good and she was in the dating scene and sick of it. She told me that all the guys wanted was sex. How can anyone make a relationship out of that?
I think it is tough for anyone male of female to start a relationship and keep it going. You never know what someones real motive is.
If you are looking for a MATE...not a one-night stand...then you aren't paying attention to media or ads, or anything. You are looking for a partner.
Hubby and I have been together for 42 years....we've had "hot" times, hard times, good times and bad times. We've looked good, and not so good......yet, we are still together because we feel we are WORTH THE WORK a relationship takes.
Love is more than one thing...it's complicated, but so worth it.
That's not how I read the OP. I think s/he is asking whether the emphasis these days on women being "hot"--as sexually provocative--makes a difference in women's ability to find quality relationships, and whether a woman's sexuality and "sexual power" being held as women's highest value is a good thing, or causes problems. "Hot" is not about "pretty" or "cute". It's a whole different thing. It's Marilyn Monroe, i.e. sex object, vs. Audrey Hepburn or Liv Ullman, the average girl next door.
I think it does. I know women who get left behind in the focus on "hot", because they're merely attractive in a more run-of-the-mill way, maybe what used to be called "wholesome" vs. "sexy". A couple of these women told me when they go to other countries, they get a fair amount of attention; men in some cultures are attracted to their type. Here at home, though, no one notices them. I wonder if the whole hotness focus is one thing that's behind porn addiction, too.
OP, I've been suspecting for a long time that the emphasis on "hot" does affect a woman's ability to choose a mate, and does affect some women's ability to attract a mate at all. I've known women with a naturally sexy look who were frustrated because they only attracted a certain type of guy, the wrong kind. Not a low-key, down-to-earth family type. And of course, women who don't fit the "hot" image end up sidelined.
Mountain Hi points out that some women have discovered that the "hot" ethos tends to be more of an American male preference, or possibly it's present in parts of Europe as well (Germany comes to mind), and that men in other cultures tend to go for a completely different type. I've found that to be true here at home, as well; Hispanic, Native American, and some Asian men aren't as into a sexy look as Euro-American guys seem to be. They (generalizing, here; there certainly are exceptions, but it's a noticeable difference between them and men of the dominant culture in the US) go for women who have more of a sweet look, a kind look, an approachable, down-to-earth type.
And yes, the women's-sexual-power thing is way overblown. I know a lot of women who would laugh in someone's face who suggested that women have power of any kind at all, and especially sexual power. *sigh*
Thank you, RuthforTruth, you understood the question very well. Your response expounds on the subject matter intellectually to address the points which the questions push to the forefront.
In some cases, these so called "hot" images are often times not the same image people want to take home to meet the family, but in the wealthy circles it often is the image taken home as the "trophy". It's such a paradox.
If we look around in general society at long term couples, they often don't fit the "hot" script or imagery, but they fit a more wholesome, down to earth, everyday realism of people who simply maintain themselves as being groomed, cordial, considerate, interactively engaging.
Just for the sake of Imagery, does one wonder why "models" have that "i'm pissed off look on their faces" as they march down the runways. They don't look like happy campers. Yes they have the emphasis placed on sensuality and allure, but the face is stern and in some cases even promote the I'm quite bitchy look. I'm sure others have wondered why the frozen face look and they all seem to adopt it as a standard in the business when walking the runway.
There are some women who simply look good, with a personable manner expressed, as as you said, there is something more sweet about the manner and approachable and interactively open to be down to earth.
I don't want to take anything from any women either single or married, but there is a certain beauty which is visible in married women, who are happy in their relationship, the same as there is a certain beauty that is visible in women who are caring mothers. It's an undeniable charm that comes across, this includes those who keep them selves in shape as well as those who may not be in the best of a toned body image.
But for anyone if they go out and look about, take note of the couples who have long term relationships... many have that down to earth look and appeal, they are socially approachable and interactively friendly in a generalized manner.
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