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Wow poly? I'm so lucky to be made from natural materials.
Truly. Something grown from actual living stuff from planet Earth. I can say with conviction that this poly concept is not a natural act, therefore comes from non-natural materials. Some things are just not meant t be shared equally with someone else. Love between a couple I believe is one of those things. If someone else had feelings for my SO, well, sorry, she's taken, and so am I in that regard. Good thing poly materials can be recycled and put to use elsewhere....
Why is it always 2 females and 1 male? I think the other way around would be more logical. It would be hard to have more children than you could afford to raise, and it would be very economically stable because men still make more money than women.
Why is it always 2 females and 1 male? I think the other way around would be more logical. It would be hard to have more children than you could afford to raise, and it would be very economically stable because men still make more money than women.
It isn't always two women/1 man. Check the Wikipedia entry (a decent source regardless of what many say) on 'menage a trois'. It cites a number of notable two men/1 woman arrangements involving historical and/or celebrity figures.
its the new slang for swapping partners and living with the decision to be so socially "above" others in their new wave concept....which isn't new by any means. Its just more exposed and thereby weaving its way into the current generations mindsets...as being acceptable. Most are not goal oriented to having a "family" of little ones. Its more about their desires to come off as uniquely "open minded" with their life style .....
I'm open minded to many things...even this concept. the difference is...I do not have to participate in such.
I doubt at 70 or 80 they will be hanging out together...or being intimate ....that is the test of a true relationship....
Why is it always 2 females and 1 male? I think the other way around would be more logical. It would be hard to have more children than you could afford to raise, and it would be very economically stable because men still make more money than women.
Oh please no...not two men to contend with, two lots of dirty clothes to pickup. two baths to clean, two pains in the arse to listen to when their football teams get beat.no no no... its bad enough living with the one, so why punish women more..
its the new slang for swapping partners and living with the decision to be so socially "above" others in their new wave concept....which isn't new by any means. Its just more exposed and thereby weaving its way into the current generations mindsets...as being acceptable. Most are not goal oriented to having a "family" of little ones. Its more about their desires to come off as uniquely "open minded" with their life style .....
I'm open minded to many things...even this concept. the difference is...I do not have to participate in such.
I doubt at 70 or 80 they will be hanging out together...or being intimate ....that is the test of a true relationship....
I know a lot of poly families with kids. And I know some polyamorous people who are in their 70's. None in their 80's though.
One family I know, there was an original married couple who were always self-identified as poly, and had dated...she finally found someone she really loved and wanted to form a strong secondary relationship with (secondary to the legal marriage in some aspects at least, probably more egalitarian in emotional investment.) She and her husband had four children, the new "second husband" brought in his son from a prior relationship, and then she got pregnant with the new boyfriend's twins. They've been in a relationship for a few years now I think, and they've lived together since early this year. The extra adult in a house with that many kids really seems to help.
I could far more easily imagine being ok with 2 husbands, than I could with that many kids in the house, but hey...whatever floats your boat.
No poly person I have ever met would say that anyone "has to" participate in such, as you put it. They feel that it works for them. So they do it. They're not trying to say that it's something everyone should do, or that a majority will ever choose to do.
I really would not want to live in a world where there was only one right way to live life, and any step outside of the strict bounds of social conformity was truly unacceptable. At the very least, it would be horribly boring.
As someone who was polyamorous for a year, and then went back to being monogamous, even I would not say that monogamy is inherently better or worse. It just works better for me right now.
Big at the claims that it is "unnatural." A narrow minded traditionalist's way of saying "I don't like it, and want to feel righteous in my judgment of it." I know of no basis whatsoever for polyamory being unnatural in any way. Might feel that way, TO YOU, but there's no grounds for you to project that onto everybody else. There are plenty of examples of nonmonogamy in everything from the Bible to the animal kingdom, to known human history. People gonna do what people want to do, whether you like it or not.
What is they adopted, would they disclose they are a poly family?
If you want to have a thrill, keep the kids out of it.
Not really sure how many times one has to say that it's not about "thrills."
If a man and woman live together married and have a sexual relationship, which they would have to, in order to reproduce normally, do you figure they're inappropriately exposing their kids to sexual things?
Why do you assume that a poly family would?
It's not different than extended families sharing a home, or back in the generations where people had more kids. The kids in that house are not confused at all. They have three adults they've got to listen to, a Mommy, a Daddy, and a Papa. No one is adopted (what does that have to do with anything?) and who are they supposed to be disclosing or not disclosing to, exactly? I'm pretty sure that their teachers at school are told. It's really not that big a deal. A five year old isn't worrying about who is having sex with whom.
And since they've got all those kids including two babies in the house, I bet there isn't a whole lot of sex happening at all!
It's rather disappointingly (to normal people who want to be titillated) not exciting, not scandalous, and not that weird.
Not really sure how many times one has to say that it's not about "thrills."
If a man and woman live together married and have a sexual relationship, which they would have to, in order to reproduce normally, do you figure they're inappropriately exposing their kids to sexual things?
Why do you assume that a poly family would?
It's not different than extended families sharing a home, or back in the generations where people had more kids. The kids in that house are not confused at all. They have three adults they've got to listen to, a Mommy, a Daddy, and a Papa. No one is adopted (what does that have to do with anything?) and who are they supposed to be disclosing or not disclosing to, exactly? I'm pretty sure that their teachers at school are told. It's really not that big a deal. A five year old isn't worrying about who is having sex with whom.
And since they've got all those kids including two babies in the house, I bet there isn't a whole lot of sex happening at all!
It's rather disappointingly (to normal people who want to be titillated) not exciting, not scandalous, and not that weird.
You need to be positive not "pretty sure"
When they see mom kissing daddy and papa, that is exposing them to mixed messages as to who is their father. What are the sleeping arrangements? If one chooses to be designated as the natural father then why is mom kissing that other guy. What is love, commitment, trust? That is a lot for a developing kid to comprehend, and would be setting them up to be bullied.
I come from a large family and our upbringing was as normal as could be but we still have conflict without any added BS like poly.
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at the claims that it is "unnatural." A narrow minded traditionalist's way of saying "I don't like it, and want to feel righteous in my judgment of it." I know of no basis whatsoever for polyamory being unnatural in any way. Might feel that way, TO YOU, but there's no grounds for you to project that onto everybody else. There are plenty of examples of nonmonogamy in everything from the Bible to the animal kingdom, to known human history. People gonna do what people want to do, whether you like it or not.