Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
Would Arranged Marriages be better than the current system of choosing mates? Given the large number of failed marriages, which is economically wasteful and generally harmful to the emotional well-being of the growing children?
There are still quite a few countries in which marriages are to some degree arranged. In those countries, a 15-year old child is more likely to be living with parents who love, honor and respect each other, than in the USA.
In cultures with arranged marriages, couples start out as complete strangers, and grow to love each other. In our culture, couples who start out with little more than sexual attraction, and grow to hate each other.
IMO arranged marriage in the US wouldn't change a thing, you'd still have the same amount of unhappy ppl divorcing. In fact there are just a lot of unhappy ppl married or single. Your looking at cultures that view marriage, whats acceptable and happiness on a different scale, its for life and they don't intend to divorce.
The arrange marriage, of course, would stipulate the virtual impossibility of divorce, otherwise the couple entered into the arranged marriage could just divorce the next day. So "arranged marriage for life" would be understood as the concept. I thought that would be obvious from the context.
The arrange marriage, of course, would stipulate the virtual impossibility of divorce, otherwise the couple entered into the arranged marriage could just divorce the next day. So "arranged marriage for life" would be understood as the concept. I thought that would be obvious from the context.
The arrange marriage, of course, would stipulate the virtual impossibility of divorce, otherwise the couple entered into the arranged marriage could just divorce the next day. So "arranged marriage for life" would be understood as the concept. I thought that would be obvious from the context.
Why is it necessary for two people to remain married for life? Arranged marriages are...ridiculously old fashioned and often barbaric.
Married Americans with extremely religious beliefs don't believe in divorce, their marriages are based on biblical teachings and not an option, even though it not an arranged marriage, its wrong in the eyes of God, so theres a mindset present, that affects their daily living. Its a s close as you'll come to arranged marriage in the US EDITor should I say, marriage without the option of divorce.
So, what would be guidelines in the "All American arranged marriage"? Would these marriages be only with those of your own race? What about infidelity, is it an open marriage. Does this mean women can wave guh-bye to feminism or does anything go as long as you remain married, ya know, for the kids.
Last edited by virgode; 05-07-2010 at 01:53 AM..
Reason: spelling/addition.
This day and age, all arranged marriage in many countries means is that your mom and dad (and however many else relatives) are trotting prospective, already vetted potential mates in front of you and waiting till there's a match (ie, both parties agree they like each other enough to give it a go).
So basically, the people who know you and your upbringing and values best go out and find people who are the best matches culturally, fiscally, etc, and you pick amongst them. Basically a dating service with a way more personal touch.
In other words, they're not selecting the candidates, but theres still freedom of choice.
Quote:
Originally Posted by stan4
This day and age, all arranged marriage in many countries means is that your mom and dad (and however many else relatives) are trotting prospective, already vetted potential mates in front of you and waiting till there's a match (ie, both parties agree they like each other enough to give it a go).
So basically, the people who know you and your upbringing and values best go out and find people who are the best matches culturally, fiscally, etc, and you pick amongst them. Basically a dating service with a way more personal touch.
In other words, they're not selecting the candidates, but theres still freedom of choice.
They're free to select the candidates, too, but the whole point is that the family does the research (of the potential mates and their families) for you. And yeah...you get to choose which ones you like best. They could trot out 20 candidates, but if you don't like any of them, no one's forcing you to do anything.
You can even go on several dates with them to see what you think.
The point there is that everyone you meet is also looking to get married, so you don't have to have that worry (are you on the same page, etc, etc). And families marry families, so you want everyone on board.
Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. It is free and quick. Over $68,000 in prizes has already been given out to active posters on our forum. Additional giveaways are planned.
Detailed information about all U.S. cities, counties, and zip codes on our site: City-data.com.
Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
