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...regarding someone you detest, and the person sending it knew you detested this person, instead of sending a condolence card, is it ok to instead send a brief letter telling them what you candidly thought of this person? (This piggybacks onto the "when someone you don't like dies" thread).
Mark Twain is often credited with saying;
"I’ve never wished a man dead, but I have read some obituaries with great pleasure."
"I’ve never wished a man dead, but I have read some obituaries with great pleasure."
And if the OP is smart, that will suffice. Nothing good ever comes from speaking ill of the dead. Take the high road, Robert, and keep your opinion about the deceased to yourself.
Last edited by randomparent; 09-04-2012 at 02:35 PM..
...regarding someone you detest, and the person sending it knew you detested this person, instead of sending a condolence card, is it ok to instead send a brief letter telling them what you candidly thought of this person? (This piggybacks onto the "when someone you don't like dies" thread).
...regarding someone you detest, and the person sending it knew you detested this person, instead of sending a condolence card, is it ok to instead send a brief letter telling them what you candidly thought of this person? (This piggybacks onto the "when someone you don't like dies" thread).
No. I cannot think of a more selfish and souless action than the OP has described. Better to do nothing at all than to use it as an opportunity to hurt those surviving the loss of a loved one.
...regarding someone you detest, and the person sending it knew you detested this person, instead of sending a condolence card, is it ok to instead send a brief letter telling them what you candidly thought of this person? (This piggybacks onto the "when someone you don't like dies" thread).
If the person who sent you the notice knew that you detested the deceased, then you have no need to candidly say how you feel, the sender already knows. Meanwhile place yourself in their position and try to consider how you would feel if someone close to you died and you later received a letter outlining what a horrible person your loved one was in his or her time on this earth. My guess is that it would not sit well with you.
I have a feeling it doesn't matter at this point anyway. This thread is a few weeks old. I hope you took the high road, OP.
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