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Happy Thanksgiving everybody. First of all I would tell somebody. I couldn't imagine what it would be like keeping it in. My wife passed away 14 years ago on Nov 11th. I found out how long she had when the Doc covering for her Oncologist didn't like what he saw on the Xrays (I was not privy to, for some reason). After reviewing them he came to myself and my daughter-in-law and said "count days instead of weeks". He had three sets of Xrays I had never seen, since my wife had her radiation/consults in private. The progression of the lung tumor was enormous over the six weeks of radiation. I knew she was getting weaker, but the doc kept saying "we're making progress", yet he wouldn't speak to me alone. I suspect it was her choice. She also refused to tell her 15 year old daughter and told everyone else not to. I didn't agree and told her as soon as I got the results. Everyone else had already known. She had 4 months from the date diagnosed in the Doc's office until she died. Her daughter lost her best friend and the rest of the family seemed to become distant with her. My wife seemed to keep many secrets that later trickled out. I guess that was the way she was and I have had to accept that over the years.
That's a shame your wife did not choose to confide in you and your daughter. IDK how she could have managed to keep that secret. I would have wanted all the love and support I could get. That's me though.
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