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Well I will give you what I went through since I was a widow at 32 .. Very young but I waited 9 yrs and the kids were out of the house before I even thought about dating and waited 11 yrs to marry again .... It was my choice but a lifetime is hard without someone and fortunately I found a very good man whom im sure would have been friends with my husband if the sittuation were reversed .. My husband died when an elderly man decided to get behind the wheel and had a stroke and ran over my husband while he was out jogging . It happens but I knew i had to move on I was too young to go through the rest of my life alone . Im sure my husband would have remarried if he were able to find someone and if I had been the one to go . Im glad for Lisa and I wish her well and I did not know that Patrick was a heavy hitter with the alcohol . I know that Jennifer Grey was hit hard by his death too because she did say he was a very nice man .
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Patrick was a heavy drinker and smoker, but he was still in top physical shape. I think that could be why he was able to fight the cancer for so long. I remember a wonderful interview Barbara Walters did with him for 20/20 (I think), and he was just amazing. But, his demons were known. He crashed a plane he was flying in Arizona, and it was reported at the time that the authorities found alcohol in his plane. I don't know if that's true, thought.
Folks, I need to gently remind you this is the Grief forum - we've kind of drifted off and this convo may best belong in another forum such as Celebrities since we're not really discussing grief or the recovery process. We will leave it open for a bit, but if it is moved I will leave a redirect. Thanks for understanding.
Marcy, I am so sorry to hear about your husband. I fully understand what you say. I lost my husband 15 weeks ago, I struggle with grief and loss. I was in love with my husband, he made me laugh so much. No man could compare to him. When my DH died, part of me died. I don't even know if I am going to make it. I feel so sad, unhappy, dead inside.
I, too, am glad to hear Lisa is finally dating. I can be honest, I can't wait for that time to come, but for now, I miss my sweetie so much. I look at pictures of him almost everyday and tell him I miss him. He was the love of my life. I can't feel any emotions and I am a mess.
I'm so sorry about the pain your feeling after the death of your husband, I truly cannot imagine. Please be encouraged that your raw, deep pain will not always remain in the intensity you feel right now. You need to realize that anyone who experienced so much love with and for their husband will be a beautiful asset to the world. I mean that. Your heart is broken, but girl you know how to love...there are endless people that can be touched by that. This world needs more of your kind of love and it encourages me to see it. Healing will come and joy will return, in ways you may never expect. Blessings and peace to you!
Patrick seemed so vulnerable. I wasn't really attracted to him sexually, but was very pulled to his genuine persona and felt like I wanted to protect him as I would a brother. I cannot say this about but just a few celebrities, but Patrick is one that still brings a sadness when I think of him.
I just saw a new commercial for the Cancer Centers of America. It shows the lady who had pancreatic cancer 10 years ago and is still alive. Hubby and I would watch her and a couple of other commercials for CCoA and wish he could go there. Of course I wanted closest but he wanted Arizona. He always wanted to go there. Arizona that is. Sadly we could not afford and even if we could, there are the animals that can't be left. His insurance would not cover it also.
BUT, I was thinking how wonderful that the lady is still alive! I wonder why Patrick did not try them? I wonder what their success and survival rate is for these cancers? Pancreatic/esophageal? Those two are especially deadly.
We knew a man that survived pancreatic cancer and he had it in the early 70's and survived. I had not known it was deadly until Michael Landon got it. Back in those days, had no computer to look up the facts. I believe that pancreatic cancer is silent until it is too late but if one can get it in time, they are able to treat it. One of my dear friend's went to the Cancer Center in Illinois, before it came to Phoenix, and they can do only so much, but when the cancer spreads to other parts of your body, your odds of surviving become less.
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Pancreatic cancer is now becoming one of the more common cancers because people are getting diagnosed earlier. It's still 75% fatal because it's hard to catch early, but depending on where the cancer is in the pancreas and whether or not it's spread all figures into your chance of survival. Cancer Treatment Centers are big on insurance. If you have iffy insurance or none at all, they won't see you. They evaluate you based on how much your insurance will pay. My friend took her husband to CTC's Phoenix one, and they denied him due to inadequate insurance. He died a month after they got back.
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