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Then again...why waste good clothes. Really just to burn them
Mainly because bodies creep me out and I seriously do not ever want to knowingly wear something that was previously put on a dead body. Spirits I have no problem with at all but a dead body.......blech
I don't get the whole open casket thing in the first place. That said, I wouldn't care how anyone wished to be dressed or undressed regardless of whether there'd be an open casket.
I don't get the whole open casket thing in the first place. That said, I wouldn't care how anyone wished to be dressed or undressed regardless of whether there'd be an open casket.
I think it's for people to see the dead person one last time, toos. I don't know how it started but I think that is the reason for open casket.
My mom wanted to be buried in a comfortable bathrobe. She said she did not like to dress up in life, and she didn't want to be dressed up in death, either. We found a comfortable pink bathrobe and house slippers to bury her in.
I think it's for people to see the dead person one last time, toos. I don't know how it started but I think that is the reason for open casket.
There is a story I read or heard about the phrase "You're going to wake the dead" which supposedly started many many years ago when people would sit with someone who had "died" from the moment they died until the burial because some people hadn't actually died and some would sit up in their coffins hence the reason the coffin was left open until burial. I honestly don't know how true that is and have not researched it but I'm glad I was not part of that era......ewe
If it's his or her will, then it doesn't matter what I think. Only thing that matters is if you are respecting the will. And the clothes doesn't matter to me at all, it's not a living thing, on the other hand it's personal item of someone that I'll miss so much, something that belongs to her or him, it's only logical that I bury him or her in it. Plus it doesn't matter what does the person wear, the person is dead, it's no shame to wear t-shirt and trousers, on the contrary it's a good and brave thing for the deceased, to not be ashamed, hypocritic to show who he or she was and that you respect that, that you love that...
Dying is one of the few totally personal choices that is left to anyone these days. If someone wants to be buried naked, in a clowns suit or any way they wish... that is their choice and ONLY their choice.
I can't imagine anyone having an opinion on this issue because it's no one's decision except the deceased person.
Well, many people die before they expect it and don't express any opinion on their burial garb. My late wife and I talked a little about dying, funerals, etc., but she died unexpectedly at age 51, so that hadn't been discussed. I did know she didn't want a fancy casket, ("Put me in a cardboard box.") and I knew she wanted to be cremated, and that she didn't want an open casket. Her daughters picked a new dress from her closet, one that she hadn't yet worn. And we gave the undertaker a pack of her cigarettes to put in the casket.
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Originally Posted by toosie
I don't get the whole open casket thing in the first place. That said, I wouldn't care how anyone wished to be dressed or undressed regardless of whether there'd be an open casket.
I just don't like the idea of an open casket. I'd rather people remember me being alive than stretched out in a coffin. My late wife felt the same way, so her's was closed. A few people wanted to see her. "I can't believe she's dead." One even went to the funeral home and tried to talk the funeral director into letting her view my late wife. He told her she'd have to get permission from me. Nope. Sorry.
Dying is one of the few totally personal choices that is left to anyone these days. If someone wants to be buried naked, in a clowns suit or any way they wish... that is their choice and ONLY their choice.
I can't imagine anyone having an opinion on this issue because it's no one's decision except the deceased person.
Basically how I feel^.
Another person pointed out that the deceased may not have conveyed their wishes ahead of time, then someone else will have to make a judgment call.
However, so long as someone is capable of expressing a preference for how they want to be attired, then I think that should be allowed (and to with "propriety/tradition/formality").
It's just my personal opinion that once someone is dead, there isn't anything more that can be done for the deceased.
Spending money on the corpse seems-to me-a waste of resources (which could be used to help the living).
Am not quarreling, quibbling with (dissing) what anyone else has chosen to do for their deceased loved ones.
I don't like to consider my own death-though, once I'm "gone", I want my body to be disposed of as cheaply/naturally/simply as possible.
Don't spend money dressing me (or my box) up-soon enough, I'll be ash or dirt anyway.
No offense intended to other people's belief system or priorities, these are merely mine.
When my father died, he had a pair new pajamas, so, that's what he wore. I added the cap he wore when it was cold. No one saw him anyway, because it was a closed casket. My main concern when it is my turn, is for as little as possible to be spent. I used to tell my children to have a taxidermist preserve me in a sitting pose and for them to take turns having me sit in their living room.
This may seem odd, but after going to funeral after funeral that have lovely services, but do not do much to celebrate the person passing in a way that I can recognize that person, I have taken to planning my funeral service. I started with music - and i have been thinking about what to be buried in - and I decided comfy pajamas. Why the hell not? Death is that final journey, choice, way to show respect - send them home in the manner that is individual and appropriate for that person - not what others think.
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with "propriety/tradition/formality").
