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Most of the time when you go to funerals the deceased is dressed in a suit and tie (man) or in a dress (woman) but how would you feel if they chose a different attire? When my husband dies someday he wants to wear a black T-shirt and jeans. I see nothing wrong with it because my husband was not a suit and tie guy either. Do you think is disrespectful or tacky? What would you want to wear for your funeral? I would choose dress pants and a nice shirt but that's me. I really don't wear dresses all that much.
A suit/dress are the obvious traditional choices but if a person makes a specific request to be dressed in something different, their wishes should certainly be honored.
I wouldn't care what the deceased was wearing. I think most people have one "good set of clothes" and it is just tradition to be sent off in them. I sent my dad off in his "funeral attire" to his own. I can't remember what I sent mom off in and there was no wake for hubby so I had to give away his suit.
Like GPC said, if there are specific instructions as how to dress the person, those instructions should be met.
Well, having lost both my parents I can truthfully say they never discussed what they would want to wear while lying in their casket. Both of them were down to earth, plain, hardworking people who never put on airs and were not "into" clothing trends, per se. If it fit, was clean, and comfortable - it met all the criteria they set forth. Neither one "dressed up" although when they went to church Mom would put on a dress, and Dad a suit and tie - but that was not their usual "look". When the time was nigh, clothing was the furthest thing from any of our minds - we were busy saying goodbye, I love yous', making sure they were comfortable and enjoying every moment we had left to drink in their faces, voices, and just ingrain them on our souls as much as possible. Neither expressed a desire for anything special, so when Mom died we buried her in a pair of slacks and I chose her favorite red sweater. It was her favorite color, and always made her feel pretty - and she looked beautiful. Dad usually favored casual slacks and a plaid shirt with long sleeves. We picked out a pair of his slacks and paired it with his favorite plaid shirt, in green, his favorite color. It suited us kids, we thought it would have suited them, and so it was done. I personally don't think it matters one iota what you are wearing - people are not going to notice or remember, and if they do - what should one care at that point?
When my dad died, he was dressed in his nice golf shirt, golfing slacks and his golf hat was in his hands. He was an avid golfer (was even cremated with his putter) and always looked nice on the the course, so I can't imagine him wearing anything but his golf attire. He even asked the pall bearers to wear their nice golf shirts and all the men he had ever played with to also wear the same and then follow the casket out for the "last walk." It was beautiful for me and my family to see well over 50 men following my dad's last wishes.
Most of the time when you go to funerals the deceased is dressed in a suit and tie (man) or in a dress (woman) but how would you feel if they chose a different attire? When my husband dies someday he wants to wear a black T-shirt and jeans. I see nothing wrong with it because my husband was not a suit and tie guy either. Do you think is disrespectful or tacky? What would you want to wear for your funeral? I would choose dress pants and a nice shirt but that's me. I really don't wear dresses all that much.
Bury him in what he wants. Who cares what others think...obviously if they knew him they'd know it was what he wore. There are too many things to stress over when we loose a loved one....Don't let attire be one of them.
He even asked the pall bearers to wear their nice golf shirts and all the men he had ever played with to also wear the same and then follow the casket out for the "last walk." It was beautiful for me and my family to see well over 50 men following my dad's last wishes.
I posted this because I know someone who had an issue with this. They think suit and tie is more appropriate and I was thinking of that today. I agree with everyone. Thanks.
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Well, having lost both my parents I can truthfully say they never discussed what they would want to wear while lying in their casket. Both of them were down to earth, plain, hardworking people who never put on airs and were not "into" clothing trends, per se. If it fit, was clean, and comfortable - it met all the criteria they set forth. Neither one "dressed up" although when they went to church Mom would put on a dress, and Dad a suit and tie - but that was not their usual "look". When the time was nigh, clothing was the furthest thing from any of our minds - we were busy saying goodbye, I love yous', making sure they were comfortable and enjoying every moment we had left to drink in their faces, voices, and just ingrain them on our souls as much as possible. Neither expressed a desire for anything special, so when Mom died we buried her in a pair of slacks and I chose her favorite red sweater. It was her favorite color, and always made her feel pretty - and she looked beautiful. Dad usually favored casual slacks and a plaid shirt with long sleeves. We picked out a pair of his slacks and paired it with his favorite plaid shirt, in green, his favorite color. It suited us kids, we thought it would have suited them, and so it was done. I personally don't think it matters one iota what you are wearing - people are not going to notice or remember, and if they do - what should one care at that point?
