Family Events While Mourning....

[Summering]

Originally Posted by desertrose09

I went to a widow/widowers wedding a few months after I lost my husband. It was a very sweet wedding but was way to soon for me to go.

Now I'm faced with going to my niece's wedding on my late husband's side of the family. It will be close to the 3rd anniversary of his death. I haven't traveled alone since becoming a widow but my sister-in-law says she won't forgive me if I don't come. The venue is a 4 hr drive from me with no air conditioning in Texas summer. For about an hour of the trip I will have spotty cell service. I feel so left out when I'm with other couples and really dread going.

Try a bus or train so you don't have an anxious drive. It seems important to your sister and you should make an effort to go. They should make you feel comfortable. I'm sure the other people would love your company.
You don't have to party it up with joy. Smile and be a part of the event, then head happily home.

[desertrose09]

Originally Posted by Chava61

I too think that you need to decide what is best for you. Traveling alone in uncomfortable conditions and then sitting in an uncomfortable social situation could be upsetting even when is one isn't still mourning a lost.

Very true. I've been in several uncomfortable social situations since becoming a widow but have always been able to get back home fairly quickly.

Thanks everyone for the advice. I will probably skip the wedding. After the wedding I would have to come back to work for 3 days then I have an obligation that's a 4 1/2 hr drive from home. I feel like that's too much for me at a stressful time.

[tamiznluv]

Originally Posted by Summering

Try a bus or train so you don't have an anxious drive. It seems important to your sister and you should make an effort to go. They should make you feel comfortable. I'm sure the other people would love your company.
You don't have to party it up with joy. Smile and be a part of the event, then head happily home.

That's a good suggestion, Summering. It's not her SISTER, it's her Sister in-law.