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To the OP, I think the longer you've been with one person, the more difficult it is to move on without them. Twenty years is a long time. I really believe that when very old couples die within months of each other, it's because the surviving spouse just found it too difficult to go on. I don't know why people think there should be any kind of timetable or schedule for grief, like "Okay, it's been two years. Time for you to instantly feel better now, and start dating again!" I wonder if it's because some people just don't have the capacity to feel as deeply as others? If you're committed to someone, and they're gone, you should remain committed for as long as it takes to no longer feel that way. And if that never happens? That's okay, too. Just tell everyone: "I'm not you, but thank you very much for your concern."
we dump people and later regret it. they had good qualities that is what brought you together. after the pain is gone we forget the bad times and remember the good. but when you packed up and left you had good reasons. dont forget them.
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