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I have relatives in the south that took pictures of the deceased in the casket while they stood by it, a
last rememberance...We didn't do that where we lived in the north but I never thought there was anything
wrong with the pictures since it gave them comfort.
My younger son asked if he could take a couple of photos of my husband shortly after he died. (He was still laying in the hospital bed.) I didn't mind.. We were sad and shocked that my husband died...To be honest, I was planning to bring him home that day. Then, he took an unexpected turn for the worst and ended-up in ICU...He was still coherent and "chipper" right up until the end... He died with a smile on his face. My son said he looked like an angel lying in the bed. We were happy that he seemed at peace.
As much as I don't agree with taking pictures of the dead, my husband looked so much better than he had in months, I think back now and kind of wish I had a picture of his face pain free and no motley black on it. He looked so peaceful to me.
My grandmas funeral was yesterday.. I caught my cousin taking a picture of her.. I was so upset! I still am to be honest.. I was always told that when you take a picture of them they're souls get trapped. Anyways I asked him to delete it. He did after looking at me like I'm crazy. I helped my parents take care of her for 13 years and the last month's when it really mattered. And I'm absolutely sure she would not want to be remembered like that..
i`d love to have pictures of my pasted family members dead or alive .. i dont even have a picture of mom or dad .. i was the youngest of 13 kids and it never occurred to me that folks die and go away and i`d never see them again ..i do have one memory of my mothers dad pictured here ..
It seems to have been an european/eastern european thing once upon a time as we have pictures from days gone by. My mother with her mother and my mother with my Dad I think. We did not take pictures of my mother's recent death however. All of her generation who might have wanted them preceeded her and we are of a different generation/tradition.
I wonder if part of this was simply that in the old days pictures were hard to come by, costly, for special occasions. A funeral might have been one of the few times when you could/would get a picture.
Then, for most of the 1900's pictures were easier, more common, peopled had them throughout life it was not necessary and seemed unseemly. Only tradition kept it happening for a time till that started to die out too.
Now...with iphones and pictures of EVERYTHING ALL THE TIME, it may be coming back, not as tradition, or even mindfully, thoughtfully, out of desire but just that knee jerk reaction to snap every second of life, every event etc.
I think this is something the OP should just let go.
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